The society we live in judges everything we do, what we wear, what we look like, how we act, how we live, and even how much we earn. I don't see why this ...
Contents The Start ...............................................................2 Media Dramatised .................................................4 CyberBullying ........................................................6 End .......................................................................7 About Marc Corn ..................................................7
The Start The society we live in judges everything we do, what we wear, what we look like, how we act, how we live, and even how much we earn. I don’t see why this should concern anyone else, why are we judgemental? Is it jealousy? Do we really care about these things? Or do we moan for no reason? When it comes down to it, we're all labelled, it doesn't matter who you are, you will be judged by at least one person in your life. If we look at my life, I am judged each day that goes by because I have a disability that people don't understand, they just look and make silly comments. I am used to it now, but when this first started happening I allowed myself to become engrossed by these comments. This was stupid on my part, who cares what other people think? I don't make remarks about their lives, so why should they do that to mine? I don't take notice of these comments, it isn't worth wasting any time on because the best thing you can do is walk away, they're the childish ones, they can waste their life, but don't allow it to waste yours! There will be many reasons why someone would judge you, but in respect, this shouldn't happen. We are all walking critics and the problem is, we have an opinion about everything because each of us is unique, which means we have different attitudes to many situations. Think about it like this, you could meet someone new and you notice something different about them, now even though this is none of your 2
concern, you make a judgement in your mind of this person based on that one difference. Even if you have an opinion on that person, you should keep it to yourself, what do you gain by telling everyone about it? We must keep in mind that no one is exempt from this, and this is because we have all made a judgement of some kind during our lives. Even if you haven’t made a judgement yet, you will at some point in your life. This doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it just means you don’t agree with certain things. This is perfectly fine; we all have a difference in attitudes or in the way we conduct ourselves, but this becomes redundant if someone becomes upset by the judgement you’re making. Judgments can be made in many ways; it could be a comment, joke, or even your attitude towards that person. We must remember that there is good and bad judgement, it just depends on the situation at hand. Sometimes people don't mean to make bad judgements, but unfortunately they do because they're only human, and like us all, we make mistakes. There is an unfortunate side to all of this, some people make judgements because they want the person to feel hurt by their words, which means this will make the person feel better, but in reality, they have underlying problems in their life and this is their way of releasing the tension they feel. Even though this behaviour is wrong, we must look at the underlying causes because they might not be getting the help they need. If they're doing it on purpose, this will mean that the person has no soul or self-worth. I would love to say that I don't know people like this, but unfortunately I do. I don't condone this behaviour of these people and I never will because it's totally wrong. I try to keep myself limited to the number of people I 3
connect with through my life, this is purely my own decision, but I do this to keep my life peaceful. Even though, this could be seen as a judgement, but like I said before, there is good and bad judgement, and I feel this is a good judgement. When I did research into this topic, it became apparent that judgement often occurs in religion. Now, before I discuss this topic, I want to make it clear that I have nothing against any religion or anyone; this is just a brief discussion about the research I found. The only thing I will say, is that there are many religious groups who think they're following the Bible, but in reality they're not, and this is something I don't agree with. This remark isn't aimed towards any specific religious group; it is purely based on my own opinion. From what I have read, there are many religious groups. Each one of these groups are based upon the foundations of the Bible, which is completely fine, but is it okay if they take these words out of context? My opinion is, if these groups were founded on the Bible, they should stay within the context of the scripture. I don’t feel that they’re helping themselves if they move away from these foundations by misunderstanding the words spoken in the Bible.
Media Dramatised Recently, there has been an increase of religious reality shows on television. I have watched some of these shows and I feel the majority of them have been dramatised to gain viewership, but the problem with this is, they misconstrued the truth about these religions. I don't want to be a stick in the 4
mud, but if it's a reality show, surely they have to show what is true and keep it within a certain context of reality? This kind of thing gives religion a bad name because it isn't the truth, it's misconstrued and it's taken too far out of context just for entertainment purposes. I won't be naming any of the shows for legal reasons, but due to these untruths I have made judgements that could be wrong because I have been misguided by their need to make entertainment more dramatic. Let’s discuss other forms of media where people are judged. The first type of media I can think of is newspapers; these can carry similarities to the reality shows I mentioned before. I feel that newspapers are geared towards getting more dramatic stories, it doesn’t seem like they care about the positive stories. Take me as an example; I had my anorexia story published in April 2012. This initially was to raise awareness of anorexia in males, which it achieved successfully. I’ve had such a big response since the publication, it has spread worldwide and many people contact me because they’ve seen the publication, most of the time people would contact me to say how brave I was to come out with my story. I also get messages from people asking for help with their eating disorder, which I find hard to reply back to because my help can only go so far. Even though the story had great success there was still a sense of judgment by many readers. There were many negative comments found across several websites that published my story. This is fine to a certain degree. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but some of the comments were very spiteful. Some of the comments hinted that my parents were to blame for this disorder, which wasn't the truth at all. The disorder was caused by bullies and a change in my disability, it wasn't 5
caused by my parents, how would that be logical? Anyway, I don't want to rant about that, but despite the bad comments there were also hundreds of positive comments. I always remember reading a comment where someone wished me well and said they wanted to give me a hug. These kinds of comments empowered me to overcome this disorder. It has been over a year now since the story was published and I felt we could do a rerun of the story because I have progressed a lot, but it turns out that many news companies weren’t interested at all. I don’t know the exact circumstances surrounding a rerun, but I feel they lost interest because it wasn’t dramatic like the first time. I might be incorrect about this, but it does seem that way. I will leave links at the end of this eBook to my story, but if you can’t wait, go on to Google and search “Marc Corn Anorexia” (without quotes).
CyberBullying The other media is video sharing websites. These have grown rapidly throughout the years and it has proven to be a fantastic marketing tool for many users. This growth in users has grown by millions, but a small percentage of those users watch the videos to hate on the creator. I have seen and experienced this myself, and believe me this can be a tough thing to go through. When I actively used these websites to upload videos, I always received comments about the way I look, or just giving me abuse. These comments had nothing to do with the video; it was purely to get a reaction out of me to fulfil their need for attention. As I 6
mentioned earlier, there is good and bad judgements, but with this situation it became more than judgement, it became a form of bullying. This type of bullying is called "CyberBullying" and over the years it has increased dramatically, and the unfortunate thing about this bullying is that people have taken their own lives because of these actions taken by soulless human beings.
Due to my own experiences, I have given advice to many people to help them see that cyber bullies are easy to deal with. I know it isn’t easy in some situations, but it can help knowing that you have a group supporting you. Since my story was published, I have become an active user of a Facebook Group that focuses on “CyberBullying”, this group was setup by a good friend of mine called John, he setup the group because he was inspired by my story. The group grew from ten to three-hundred users in the matter of months and even now the group grows slowly (link at the end).
End So, as you can see there are many forms of judgment, and it can be found within many aspects of life. I do hope you can take some inspiration from this eBook, and I also hope you enjoyed my insight into this topic.
About Marc Corn
Marc published his first book in October 2011, he just wanted to give it a try just to see if anyone would read it. After 3500 downloads through a kindle promotion, inspired him to write more books. The latest book he wrote was called "Habit, Kicks and Laughter." Initially this book wasn't going to be released, but after showing a few people, it was clear by their great feedback that they loved it. Marc, who suffers from cerebral palsy always tries to make the best of his condition. Every day is an uphill struggle, but he smiles through the pain to try to help others. Even though Marc struggles with his learning disability he still tries to write a lot and even if he makes mistakes he has great support on hand from his friends and family who proof-read many of Marc's publications.
Facebook: Facebook.com/MarcCornBooks Twitter: Twitter.com/MarcSnappy Website: AuthorMarcCorn.co.uk Marc’s Story: http://bit.ly/HHu6g9 Anti CyberBullying Page: http://facebook.com/groups/431883213494481/