9 Questions You Can Ask Almost Anyone
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9 QUESTIONS YOU CAN ASK ANYONE
SMALL TALK Did you grow up around here? This is probably the simplest question to ask anyone. It’s either a “yes” or “no” answer, plus it naturally and easily leads into more discussion. What do you do for work? If you’re talking to someone who’s employment status is different than yours (unemployed. disabled, or otherwise), show empathy by affirming them rather than their job status. What do you like to do in your spare time? The key here is to look for areas of commonality. You might find someone with whom you share a hobby or interest. This could lead to a deeper relationship and friendship.
GETTING PERSONAL What’s your family story? This question is something that nearly everyone can relate to. However, talking about family might be painful for some people. Consider leading into the question by sharing your life first. For example: “Sue and I are working through the terrible-two’s right now. Do you have kids?” What are you working on right now that’s exciting to you? Whether this conversation centers around vocational work, family, or hobbies, most of us are eager to share what we’re excited about. Be prepared to share something from your life too. How can I pray for you? While this question might seem a little daunting for personal conversation, many people appreciate the notion that you’re spiritually sensitive enough to ask. It’s also a great way to understand someone’s spiritual beliefs and introduce them to yours.
DEEPER CONVERSATION What is your greatest accomplishment / greatest fear? Sharing our greatest accomplishments or fears assumes a deeper friendship than just a passing acquaintance. The key here is model what we’re looking for. Ideally, you’ve already shared this in the conversation and the other person feels free enough to reciprocate. What do you want to be best known for? Outside of the slightly awkward end-of-life implication, this question is great once the relationship has moved comfortably into deeper water. This gives insight into the person sees themselves and the world. What’s important to you spiritually? Asking this question requires a level of trust. Be prepared to venture deeper if the opportunity allows.
9 QUESTIONS YOU CAN ASK ANYONE
SMALL TALK Did you grow up around here? This is probably the simplest question to ask anyone. It’s either a “yes” or “no” answer, plus it naturally and easily leads into more discussion. What do you do for work? If you’re talking to someone who’s employment status is different than yours (unemployed. disabled, or otherwise), show empathy by affirming them rather than their job status. What do you like to do in your spare time? The key here is to look for areas of commonality. You might find someone with whom you share a hobby or interest. This could lead to a deeper relationship and friendship.
GETTING PERSONAL What’s your family story? This question is something that nearly everyone can relate to. However, talking about family might be painful for some people. Consider leading into the question by sharing your life first. For example: “Sue and I are working through the terrible-two’s right now. Do you have kids?” What are you working on right now that’s exciting to you? Whether this conversation centers around vocational work, family, or hobbies, most of us are eager to share what we’re excited about. Be prepared to share something from your life too. How can I pray for you? While this question might seem a little daunting for personal conversation, many people appreciate the notion that you’re spiritually sensitive enough to ask. It’s also a great way to understand someone’s spiritual beliefs and introduce them to yours.
DEEPER CONVERSATION What is your greatest accomplishment / greatest fear? Sharing our greatest accomplishments or fears assumes a deeper friendship than just a passing acquaintance. The key here is model what we’re looking for. Ideally, you’ve already shared this in the conversation and the other person feels free enough to reciprocate. What do you want to be best known for? Outside of the slightly awkward end-of-life implication, this question is great once the relationship has moved comfortably into deeper water. This gives insight into the person sees themselves and the world. What’s important to you spiritually? Asking this question requires a level of trust. Be prepared to venture deeper if the opportunity allows.
