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Speed Seduction® Introductory Course Transcript:
Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot Part 1
Created By
Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some” www.Seduction.com For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging, buying, B.S, booze or biceps, in his seduction of women.
Copyright © 1988-present Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.
Disclaimer Speed Seduction® courses may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for selfrespecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or Seduction.com (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.
Ross:
The first key to doing walk-ups, to doing approaches, is preparation. I like to say the walk-up starts, the approach starts, the Sarge starts before you leave your house. Before you walk out the door, you should have some kind of preparation ritual. Whether it’s ten minutes of energized breathing, ten minutes of meditation, ten minutes of watching BarnyardFriends.com, I don’t care. You got to do some kind of preparation as a practice. It’s got to be a regular practice. You’ve got to have a preparation process. You must. You have to have the discipline to do something to prepare your state. That’s number one.
Number two, you almost always want – don’t ever always do anything – but a pre-opener is really, really useful. The purpose of a pre-opener is to deal with a woman’s need for safety. Safety is really, really important. Let’s face it: we’re bigger than they are. I’m not a violent person at all, but all else being equal, in a contest of strength, we’re going to win.
Women react better if you give them the opportunity to sample your presence and just get a quick sample of you to tell if he’s safe or unsafe. Is he creepy or is he okay? All the pre-openers designed to do is in a non-threatening, very quick way allow your woman to sample your voice and your physical presence. It’s not designed to impress her, not designed to fascinate her, not designed to get her to fall in love with you. It’s just designed to let her sample your voice, sample your presence.
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Let’s say I’m at Starbucks and there’s a woman sitting here and I’m going to do a pre-opener. You know how Starbucks have the condiments arranged – the cream, milk, sugar? I’ll walk up and say, “Pardon me, I just have to reach into your space to grab the cream.” That’s it. All I’m doing is letting her hear my voice.
“Oh, he’s got a deep, masculine voice.” I fairly frequently have women say, “Oh my God, you've got a great voice,” just from saying that.
I walked onto an airplane. When I flew up to London, I got in the plane and said, “Good morning, Virgin Atlantic personnel.”
She said, “Oh my God. You've got a fantastic voice.”
I said, “That’s because I’m a hypnotist.”
She went, “=really?”
I said, “Yes.”
I’m sitting over there in seat 2A. “We’ll talk later, right?”
It just allowed to let her sample my energy – that I’m present, that I’m masculine, that I’m safe and I’m not going to harm her. It’s really, really important. Remember what I said about creeps? 2 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
You're going to do a pre-opener. I can give you four different variations, but I’m going to give you one. I’m not going to confuse you. A big mistake that people do when they learn is they take on ten different things, they practice ten things once instead of one thing ten times and they gain no mastery. So I’m going to give you one approach, one opener. This is what I call “funny first.”
I say to her, “Forgive me. I need to reach into your space to grab the cream.” That’s the pre-opener. Then I’ll say, “Can I ask you a question? Are you Jamaican?”
She’ll say, “No.”
I’ll say, “Because Jamaican me crazy.”
It’s funny. If that’s all I did, it will be ha-ha and then I’m over. But then the next thing I do is to acknowledge that it was corny.
I’ll say, “Okay, that was a little over-the-top. But when I saw you here I thought she probably gets approached 100 times a week. Do something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like. My name is Dick. Dick Dickenson.”
Now let’s take that apart. I do the pre-opener first. You must do the pre-opener first. If you just do the “are you Jamaican because you're Jamaican me crazy,” you come off weird. But if you start with
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that pre-opener, that’s very matter-of-fact and calm, then you can do the funny thing.
So we do the funny thing “are you Jamaican” or you could say – “Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see.” Then you're going to say, “Okay, I realized that was over-the-top. But when I saw you, I thought she probably gets approached 100 times a week; say something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like. My name is Pecker Wood.”
Let’s take that apart and show you what that does and why that’s useful. I reach for the cream and I go like this? “Can I ask you question? Are you from Tennessee?” I’m doing it kind of off-hand like, “Hmm= I suddenly realized this.”
I make her laugh and then the next thing I do is pace the reality that I just said something stupid. I admit it first. I say, “Okay, that was a little over-the-top.” So I’m not pretending to be clueless. I’m admitting that I know it was clueless. I’m saying to her, “Hey, I didn’t really expect that line to work.” I’m showing her I’m not so clueless enough as to believe that that would really get a girl. I’m making fun of bad pickup lines.
You say, “I understand that was over-the-top, but when I saw you I thought she probably gets approached 100 times a week. Say something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like.’” Now let’s take that apart. 4 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
First of all you're saying, “Okay, I realized that was over-the-top.” So you're pacing her because she was thinking that was over-thetop or that was really corny. You're pacing her thinking. You're getting rapport through pacing.
Then you say, “But when I saw you here, I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week.’” What is that? My friends, this is a nuclear weapon in your arsenal. That is what I call the implied compliment. Notice what I didn’t say. I didn’t say, “She’s so beautiful she gets approached 100 times a week.” I said “She probably gets approached 100 times a week.” That’s what I call an implied compliment. I’m implying that I think she’s beautiful.
An implied compliment is more powerful than a direct compliment. Why? Let’s say Christine didn’t know me, I walked up and I said, “I just want to tell you I think you are so classically beautiful and so classy I had to overcome my shyness and say hi.” It’s not necessarily wimp, but maybe she doesn’t think she’s beautiful. Maybe she doesn’t think I have the right to tell her she’s beautiful because I hardly know her. Maybe I haven’t earned the right to give her the compliment.
Participant:
If somebody gives you a present, you go “Oh, but I didn’t give you anything.” It applies some pressure.
Ross:
It’s like, “Now tell me if you think I’m attractive.” When you imply it, it feels to her like it’s her own thoughts. She thinks herself, “Oh, he thinks I’m really pretty” without you having to say it. Whatever you 5 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
can get a person to imagine will be perceived by them as being their own thought, and therefore they will not resist it.
What you tell people directly they often will resist either because they don’t trust your intent in saying it or they don’t agree with it or they don’t feel you have the right to say it to them. We don’t resist our own thoughts, at least not in the same way something that appears to be imposed on us.
The implied compliment is super powerful. The implied compliment is embedded within your sharing what you are actually thinking. It implies vulnerability. When you say, “When I saw you I thought to myself,” you're revealing her thoughts to her. You're being vulnerable. You're demonstrating vulnerability. You're demonstrating honesty by sharing your thoughts.
“I saw you here and I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week, come up with something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like.’” What does that imply? That you're screening her for something more than her looks.
So you imply a compliment about her looks and then you turn right around and almost take it away by saying, “That’s not enough because I want to see if you have a sense of humor.” So you're creating challenge, showing vulnerability, showing that you're screening, and it’s really confident. A guy who reveals his thoughts like that has got to be pretty confident. 6 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
So you're being funny, vulnerable, confident, and demonstrating that you understand her world. How do you demonstrate that you understand her world? When you pace the fact that the whole approach was corny. When you say, “Hey, I know that was overthe-top” that’s exactly what she’s thinking. You're pasting her reality. You're showing that you understand how she thinks. You're doing all of this in the space of two minutes.
It’s profoundly powerful. I’ve done variations of this. I was in a shopping center (Marina del Rey) and there’s a gaggle of girls in front of me, so I had to walk through them. They were going really show, they were window shopping.
I said, “Pardon me, supermodels” and they all laughed. I turned around and said, “You girls are so fun to laugh at my jokes. You don’t happen to have a really cute brother, do you?” And they all laughed. I said to one of the really good-looking ones, “Come on. Really cute brother – how about a really cute grandpa for me?” She laughed.
I said, “You are just so adorable. Come here. Give me a hug, you big beautiful princess.” This is my they-think-I’m-gay approach. So I’m holding onto her and hugging her. I said, “There’s hardly anything there. You hardly had any butt at all.” I grabbed her butt.
She grabbed my butt and she said, “Your butt is really nice.”
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I said, “Darling, can I tell you something? I’m starting to feel a naughty tingle. Halleluiah! I’m cured! I’m not really gay!” Then I said, “Okay, I realized that was really over-the-top. But you're here with your friends. You probably get approached 100 times a week, so when I saw you I thought ‘You better come up with something really different to hold her attention and see if she’s the kind of playful person you could really like.’”
She said, “Oh man, you're really, really good. I’m sorry, but I have a boyfriend.”
I said, “You don’t need to convince me someone else finds you attractive, honey. That’s not how I’m going to make up my mind about you.”
I have a belief. My belief is whatever they offer me is just a toy for me to play with. Whatever they offer me is just energy I could redirect. Whatever they offer me is just information that I can utilize and I never take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It’s almost always a reflection of what she’s thinking, feeling, or believing in that moment – and therefore subject to change.
So if she says “I have a boyfriend,” I don’t think that’s written in stone. It’s just information. It’s a tool. It’s something that I can reframe. Boyfriends are like colds – anyone can catch one anytime. It doesn’t mean you can’t shake him off when you really want to. If unconsciously she does this, I know I have her. 8 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
What enables me to come up with this kind of stuff? My beliefs. One of my core beliefs about meeting women are I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It’s almost always a reflection of what she’s thinking, feeling, or believing in that moment and almost always subject to change.
We’ve heard the phrase – and forgive me, it’s a little chauvinist – women change their minds or it’s a woman’s right to change her mind. Let’s change her mind for her (or with her) since it’s what she does anyway.
Anything they offer me is just a toy I can play with. Anything they offer me is just energy I can redirect. Anything they offer me is just information I can utilize. Anything they offer me is just an opportunity for me to polish my skills. Anything they do is only going to result in me becoming more powerful because I’m going to extract a lesson from it and apply it immediately. Anything they do is only a way to make me more powerful – a stepping stone for me to be more skillful because I have total confidence. Not that I’m going to get the girl, because I don’t know, maybe I will, maybe I won’t. But I have total confidence in my ability to extract the lesson and the learning from every interaction and situation with women.
One of the beliefs I have is I can, I will, and do choose what I learned from each and every interaction, choice, circumstance, and event in my life in a way that serves me. I can, will, and do choose what I learn in all of my interactions with my women now, today.
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What if that was your belief? Not “What if it doesn’t work?” or “I sure hope that goddess will let me put my nerdy dick in her.” What if instead of all that, your driving belief is anything that happens in this interaction with this woman is only going to serve to increase my skill and my ability? What if your belief was I can will, can, and do choose what I learn from each and every interaction I have with my women in my life now?
You will decide what you learn. You will decide what the meaning is. You will choose what you learn. That, my friend, is the opposite of self-pity. That is the opposite of inertia. That is the opposite of trembling thinking, “I don’t know. What if it doesn’t work?” It comes down to the beliefs that you have.
If you combine these beliefs with a practice that I’m going to teach, you actually can immediately, as soon as you do a sarge, walk away where you can be quiet and do a little trance ritual. When you go into a trance and you extract out the maximum learning, everything you did right and everything you need to do differently.
How many people go out and try something, buy someone’s course, you try it once and it doesn’t work perfectly and you wait six weeks or a month before you try again, or you never try again. That’s a fucking poor learning curve. What if you learn to walk by taking one step falling and you got up six weeks later and try it again? You’d be learning to crawl about now.
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What if you took on these beliefs and took on a learning trance in such a way that as soon as you did something, you could immediately within a minute figure out first exactly everything you did right and then see exactly what you needed to do differently, and then rehearse in your mind so you could go right back out in the field and learn the lesson and apply it?
Participant:
I think you would exponentially faster.
Ross:
Fucking A, Bubba. That’s what I’m going to teach you. That’s what no one else in this community understands how to do. They haven’t got a fucking clue. But I know exactly how to teach you. No matter where you are, I’m going to show you how to do that.
The right kind of confidence is not certainty that you're going to get a girl because you’ll never know if you're going to get the girl. In L.A. you don’t even know if the girl really is a girl. You don’t know.
I had a student who got it on with a she-male and didn’t know. He said, “The funny thing is he was a great kisser.” It was fucked up, but this is L.A. This is La-La Land. Let’s be honest.
It’s not absolute confidence that I can get the girl because no one can make that prediction. It’s absolute confidence and my ability to quickly learn the lesson and go out and apply it. That can be yours. That’s a matter of choice. That has nothing to do with what you look like. It’s a matter of choice and practice. 11 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant:
One technique that I found really helpful is feeling your feet in the ground. Do you have any other technique?
Ross:
Tell us how that worked for you.
The student was sharing how by feeling his feet on the ground when he approaches women, it grounds him into his body. It’s very simple thing you can do. Try this exercise. Next time you look at a woman in the eye, put 30% of your attention on the feeling of your feet pressing against her shoes. It’s like a full body contact as opposed to just being alive from the neck up.
We do our pre-opener, we’re funny first, and then we pace her reality by admitting it was over-the-top through admission.
Occasionally I’ve done sarge or something really stupid came out of my mouth, occasionally I do dumb stuff. It’s true. My last two girlfriends have noticed that. They made it very clear to me. I’ve had situations where I just said something that for every reason didn’t work and the woman really was offended by. I said, “You know what? That was a really stupid thing that came out of my mouth. I honestly am embarrassed that I said it and I can’t believe I did it. Please let me try again in a more sincere way. The fact of the matter is I saw you here and, quite honestly, it fried my brain because I just think you're so awesome it fried my brain. So let me just try at saying I saw you here and I realized that if I didn’t say something, I’d never get to meet you. My name is Dick Dickenson.” 12 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
Utilize it. Utilize your vulnerability. If what you say falls flat, point it out: “You know what? That obviously fell totally flat. So let me try a different and more sincere approach. I just saw you here and I realized that if I didn’t say something, I’d never get to find out what you're like. My name is Dick Dickface.”
Utilize whatever is there. But in this approach, we’re funny and then we’re pacing her reality. We’re admitting that it was over-the-top approach. And then we’re sharing our thoughts. We’re saying, “I saw you here.” We use implied compliment. “I saw you here and I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week.’” So we say something funny and stupid. We admit that it was stupid, and then we reveal why we did it, we reveal our thoughts to her. Through revealing our thoughts, we give an implied compliment.
“When I saw you here I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week.’” It’s implying, “Hey, I think you're pretty.”
“So I thought, ‘Do something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like.’” That’s implying that you're screening for something more than her looks and you're setting the frame that you're screening her – all in the space of about two and a half minutes. That’s pretty fucking cherry, isn't it?
Try that approach. Pick two or three venues – Whole Foods, Starbucks, whatever – and you just repeat this. Notice what worked and how they responded. Don’t try to do a million things. All you 13 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
need is one good approach and one or two really women-filled venues and you're well on your way.
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Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot Part 1
Created By
Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some” www.Seduction.com For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging, buying, B.S, booze or biceps, in his seduction of women.
Copyright © 1988-present Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.
Disclaimer Speed Seduction® courses may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for selfrespecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or Seduction.com (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.
Ross:
The first key to doing walk-ups, to doing approaches, is preparation. I like to say the walk-up starts, the approach starts, the Sarge starts before you leave your house. Before you walk out the door, you should have some kind of preparation ritual. Whether it’s ten minutes of energized breathing, ten minutes of meditation, ten minutes of watching BarnyardFriends.com, I don’t care. You got to do some kind of preparation as a practice. It’s got to be a regular practice. You’ve got to have a preparation process. You must. You have to have the discipline to do something to prepare your state. That’s number one.
Number two, you almost always want – don’t ever always do anything – but a pre-opener is really, really useful. The purpose of a pre-opener is to deal with a woman’s need for safety. Safety is really, really important. Let’s face it: we’re bigger than they are. I’m not a violent person at all, but all else being equal, in a contest of strength, we’re going to win.
Women react better if you give them the opportunity to sample your presence and just get a quick sample of you to tell if he’s safe or unsafe. Is he creepy or is he okay? All the pre-openers designed to do is in a non-threatening, very quick way allow your woman to sample your voice and your physical presence. It’s not designed to impress her, not designed to fascinate her, not designed to get her to fall in love with you. It’s just designed to let her sample your voice, sample your presence.
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Let’s say I’m at Starbucks and there’s a woman sitting here and I’m going to do a pre-opener. You know how Starbucks have the condiments arranged – the cream, milk, sugar? I’ll walk up and say, “Pardon me, I just have to reach into your space to grab the cream.” That’s it. All I’m doing is letting her hear my voice.
“Oh, he’s got a deep, masculine voice.” I fairly frequently have women say, “Oh my God, you've got a great voice,” just from saying that.
I walked onto an airplane. When I flew up to London, I got in the plane and said, “Good morning, Virgin Atlantic personnel.”
She said, “Oh my God. You've got a fantastic voice.”
I said, “That’s because I’m a hypnotist.”
She went, “=really?”
I said, “Yes.”
I’m sitting over there in seat 2A. “We’ll talk later, right?”
It just allowed to let her sample my energy – that I’m present, that I’m masculine, that I’m safe and I’m not going to harm her. It’s really, really important. Remember what I said about creeps? 2 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
You're going to do a pre-opener. I can give you four different variations, but I’m going to give you one. I’m not going to confuse you. A big mistake that people do when they learn is they take on ten different things, they practice ten things once instead of one thing ten times and they gain no mastery. So I’m going to give you one approach, one opener. This is what I call “funny first.”
I say to her, “Forgive me. I need to reach into your space to grab the cream.” That’s the pre-opener. Then I’ll say, “Can I ask you a question? Are you Jamaican?”
She’ll say, “No.”
I’ll say, “Because Jamaican me crazy.”
It’s funny. If that’s all I did, it will be ha-ha and then I’m over. But then the next thing I do is to acknowledge that it was corny.
I’ll say, “Okay, that was a little over-the-top. But when I saw you here I thought she probably gets approached 100 times a week. Do something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like. My name is Dick. Dick Dickenson.”
Now let’s take that apart. I do the pre-opener first. You must do the pre-opener first. If you just do the “are you Jamaican because you're Jamaican me crazy,” you come off weird. But if you start with
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that pre-opener, that’s very matter-of-fact and calm, then you can do the funny thing.
So we do the funny thing “are you Jamaican” or you could say – “Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see.” Then you're going to say, “Okay, I realized that was over-the-top. But when I saw you, I thought she probably gets approached 100 times a week; say something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like. My name is Pecker Wood.”
Let’s take that apart and show you what that does and why that’s useful. I reach for the cream and I go like this? “Can I ask you question? Are you from Tennessee?” I’m doing it kind of off-hand like, “Hmm= I suddenly realized this.”
I make her laugh and then the next thing I do is pace the reality that I just said something stupid. I admit it first. I say, “Okay, that was a little over-the-top.” So I’m not pretending to be clueless. I’m admitting that I know it was clueless. I’m saying to her, “Hey, I didn’t really expect that line to work.” I’m showing her I’m not so clueless enough as to believe that that would really get a girl. I’m making fun of bad pickup lines.
You say, “I understand that was over-the-top, but when I saw you I thought she probably gets approached 100 times a week. Say something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like.’” Now let’s take that apart. 4 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
First of all you're saying, “Okay, I realized that was over-the-top.” So you're pacing her because she was thinking that was over-thetop or that was really corny. You're pacing her thinking. You're getting rapport through pacing.
Then you say, “But when I saw you here, I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week.’” What is that? My friends, this is a nuclear weapon in your arsenal. That is what I call the implied compliment. Notice what I didn’t say. I didn’t say, “She’s so beautiful she gets approached 100 times a week.” I said “She probably gets approached 100 times a week.” That’s what I call an implied compliment. I’m implying that I think she’s beautiful.
An implied compliment is more powerful than a direct compliment. Why? Let’s say Christine didn’t know me, I walked up and I said, “I just want to tell you I think you are so classically beautiful and so classy I had to overcome my shyness and say hi.” It’s not necessarily wimp, but maybe she doesn’t think she’s beautiful. Maybe she doesn’t think I have the right to tell her she’s beautiful because I hardly know her. Maybe I haven’t earned the right to give her the compliment.
Participant:
If somebody gives you a present, you go “Oh, but I didn’t give you anything.” It applies some pressure.
Ross:
It’s like, “Now tell me if you think I’m attractive.” When you imply it, it feels to her like it’s her own thoughts. She thinks herself, “Oh, he thinks I’m really pretty” without you having to say it. Whatever you 5 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
can get a person to imagine will be perceived by them as being their own thought, and therefore they will not resist it.
What you tell people directly they often will resist either because they don’t trust your intent in saying it or they don’t agree with it or they don’t feel you have the right to say it to them. We don’t resist our own thoughts, at least not in the same way something that appears to be imposed on us.
The implied compliment is super powerful. The implied compliment is embedded within your sharing what you are actually thinking. It implies vulnerability. When you say, “When I saw you I thought to myself,” you're revealing her thoughts to her. You're being vulnerable. You're demonstrating vulnerability. You're demonstrating honesty by sharing your thoughts.
“I saw you here and I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week, come up with something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like.’” What does that imply? That you're screening her for something more than her looks.
So you imply a compliment about her looks and then you turn right around and almost take it away by saying, “That’s not enough because I want to see if you have a sense of humor.” So you're creating challenge, showing vulnerability, showing that you're screening, and it’s really confident. A guy who reveals his thoughts like that has got to be pretty confident. 6 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
So you're being funny, vulnerable, confident, and demonstrating that you understand her world. How do you demonstrate that you understand her world? When you pace the fact that the whole approach was corny. When you say, “Hey, I know that was overthe-top” that’s exactly what she’s thinking. You're pasting her reality. You're showing that you understand how she thinks. You're doing all of this in the space of two minutes.
It’s profoundly powerful. I’ve done variations of this. I was in a shopping center (Marina del Rey) and there’s a gaggle of girls in front of me, so I had to walk through them. They were going really show, they were window shopping.
I said, “Pardon me, supermodels” and they all laughed. I turned around and said, “You girls are so fun to laugh at my jokes. You don’t happen to have a really cute brother, do you?” And they all laughed. I said to one of the really good-looking ones, “Come on. Really cute brother – how about a really cute grandpa for me?” She laughed.
I said, “You are just so adorable. Come here. Give me a hug, you big beautiful princess.” This is my they-think-I’m-gay approach. So I’m holding onto her and hugging her. I said, “There’s hardly anything there. You hardly had any butt at all.” I grabbed her butt.
She grabbed my butt and she said, “Your butt is really nice.”
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I said, “Darling, can I tell you something? I’m starting to feel a naughty tingle. Halleluiah! I’m cured! I’m not really gay!” Then I said, “Okay, I realized that was really over-the-top. But you're here with your friends. You probably get approached 100 times a week, so when I saw you I thought ‘You better come up with something really different to hold her attention and see if she’s the kind of playful person you could really like.’”
She said, “Oh man, you're really, really good. I’m sorry, but I have a boyfriend.”
I said, “You don’t need to convince me someone else finds you attractive, honey. That’s not how I’m going to make up my mind about you.”
I have a belief. My belief is whatever they offer me is just a toy for me to play with. Whatever they offer me is just energy I could redirect. Whatever they offer me is just information that I can utilize and I never take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It’s almost always a reflection of what she’s thinking, feeling, or believing in that moment – and therefore subject to change.
So if she says “I have a boyfriend,” I don’t think that’s written in stone. It’s just information. It’s a tool. It’s something that I can reframe. Boyfriends are like colds – anyone can catch one anytime. It doesn’t mean you can’t shake him off when you really want to. If unconsciously she does this, I know I have her. 8 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
What enables me to come up with this kind of stuff? My beliefs. One of my core beliefs about meeting women are I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It’s almost always a reflection of what she’s thinking, feeling, or believing in that moment and almost always subject to change.
We’ve heard the phrase – and forgive me, it’s a little chauvinist – women change their minds or it’s a woman’s right to change her mind. Let’s change her mind for her (or with her) since it’s what she does anyway.
Anything they offer me is just a toy I can play with. Anything they offer me is just energy I can redirect. Anything they offer me is just information I can utilize. Anything they offer me is just an opportunity for me to polish my skills. Anything they do is only going to result in me becoming more powerful because I’m going to extract a lesson from it and apply it immediately. Anything they do is only a way to make me more powerful – a stepping stone for me to be more skillful because I have total confidence. Not that I’m going to get the girl, because I don’t know, maybe I will, maybe I won’t. But I have total confidence in my ability to extract the lesson and the learning from every interaction and situation with women.
One of the beliefs I have is I can, I will, and do choose what I learned from each and every interaction, choice, circumstance, and event in my life in a way that serves me. I can, will, and do choose what I learn in all of my interactions with my women now, today.
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What if that was your belief? Not “What if it doesn’t work?” or “I sure hope that goddess will let me put my nerdy dick in her.” What if instead of all that, your driving belief is anything that happens in this interaction with this woman is only going to serve to increase my skill and my ability? What if your belief was I can will, can, and do choose what I learn from each and every interaction I have with my women in my life now?
You will decide what you learn. You will decide what the meaning is. You will choose what you learn. That, my friend, is the opposite of self-pity. That is the opposite of inertia. That is the opposite of trembling thinking, “I don’t know. What if it doesn’t work?” It comes down to the beliefs that you have.
If you combine these beliefs with a practice that I’m going to teach, you actually can immediately, as soon as you do a sarge, walk away where you can be quiet and do a little trance ritual. When you go into a trance and you extract out the maximum learning, everything you did right and everything you need to do differently.
How many people go out and try something, buy someone’s course, you try it once and it doesn’t work perfectly and you wait six weeks or a month before you try again, or you never try again. That’s a fucking poor learning curve. What if you learn to walk by taking one step falling and you got up six weeks later and try it again? You’d be learning to crawl about now.
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What if you took on these beliefs and took on a learning trance in such a way that as soon as you did something, you could immediately within a minute figure out first exactly everything you did right and then see exactly what you needed to do differently, and then rehearse in your mind so you could go right back out in the field and learn the lesson and apply it?
Participant:
I think you would exponentially faster.
Ross:
Fucking A, Bubba. That’s what I’m going to teach you. That’s what no one else in this community understands how to do. They haven’t got a fucking clue. But I know exactly how to teach you. No matter where you are, I’m going to show you how to do that.
The right kind of confidence is not certainty that you're going to get a girl because you’ll never know if you're going to get the girl. In L.A. you don’t even know if the girl really is a girl. You don’t know.
I had a student who got it on with a she-male and didn’t know. He said, “The funny thing is he was a great kisser.” It was fucked up, but this is L.A. This is La-La Land. Let’s be honest.
It’s not absolute confidence that I can get the girl because no one can make that prediction. It’s absolute confidence and my ability to quickly learn the lesson and go out and apply it. That can be yours. That’s a matter of choice. That has nothing to do with what you look like. It’s a matter of choice and practice. 11 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
Participant:
One technique that I found really helpful is feeling your feet in the ground. Do you have any other technique?
Ross:
Tell us how that worked for you.
The student was sharing how by feeling his feet on the ground when he approaches women, it grounds him into his body. It’s very simple thing you can do. Try this exercise. Next time you look at a woman in the eye, put 30% of your attention on the feeling of your feet pressing against her shoes. It’s like a full body contact as opposed to just being alive from the neck up.
We do our pre-opener, we’re funny first, and then we pace her reality by admitting it was over-the-top through admission.
Occasionally I’ve done sarge or something really stupid came out of my mouth, occasionally I do dumb stuff. It’s true. My last two girlfriends have noticed that. They made it very clear to me. I’ve had situations where I just said something that for every reason didn’t work and the woman really was offended by. I said, “You know what? That was a really stupid thing that came out of my mouth. I honestly am embarrassed that I said it and I can’t believe I did it. Please let me try again in a more sincere way. The fact of the matter is I saw you here and, quite honestly, it fried my brain because I just think you're so awesome it fried my brain. So let me just try at saying I saw you here and I realized that if I didn’t say something, I’d never get to meet you. My name is Dick Dickenson.” 12 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
Utilize it. Utilize your vulnerability. If what you say falls flat, point it out: “You know what? That obviously fell totally flat. So let me try a different and more sincere approach. I just saw you here and I realized that if I didn’t say something, I’d never get to find out what you're like. My name is Dick Dickface.”
Utilize whatever is there. But in this approach, we’re funny and then we’re pacing her reality. We’re admitting that it was over-the-top approach. And then we’re sharing our thoughts. We’re saying, “I saw you here.” We use implied compliment. “I saw you here and I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week.’” So we say something funny and stupid. We admit that it was stupid, and then we reveal why we did it, we reveal our thoughts to her. Through revealing our thoughts, we give an implied compliment.
“When I saw you here I thought, ‘She probably gets approached 100 times a week.’” It’s implying, “Hey, I think you're pretty.”
“So I thought, ‘Do something different and see if she has the kind of sense of humor you could really like.’” That’s implying that you're screening for something more than her looks and you're setting the frame that you're screening her – all in the space of about two and a half minutes. That’s pretty fucking cherry, isn't it?
Try that approach. Pick two or three venues – Whole Foods, Starbucks, whatever – and you just repeat this. Notice what worked and how they responded. Don’t try to do a million things. All you 13 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Walk-Ups/Meet Women Autopilot, Part 1" Transcript Copyright 1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com
need is one good approach and one or two really women-filled venues and you're well on your way.
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