The Love of Sisterhood: I Am My Sister's Keeper
The Love of Sisterhood: I Am My Sister’s Keeper MOUNT OLIVET BAPTIST CHURCH June 13, 2015 Minister C. W. Flood ~ Workshop Instructor
Workshop Objectives In this workshop we will examine and discuss the biblical mandate to exemplify LOVE as outlined in John 13:34-35, looking specifically at the 4 elements of the text: The COMMAND The CHALLENGE The CONNECTION The COMMITMENT 2
Focal Text: John 13:34-35 “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”
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Hitting the Target What does LOVE look like? What does LOVE act like? How are LOVE and OBEDIENCE
related? LOOK in the BOOK John 3:16-17 I Corinthians 13 I John 4:7-8 John 14:15, 21, 23-24, 31 4
The New Command Is the command to LOVE
new? Does the NEW commandment do away the ten? Why does Jesus only identify two commandments? So, what’s NEW about the NEW? 5
LOOK in the BOOK Exodus 20:1-17 Deuteronomy 5:1-22 Deuteronomy 6:4-7 Leviticus 19:18 Matthew 5:17-19 Matthew 22:36-40 Luke 10:27 Romans 13:9-10
The Challenge The DECISION to love The DEMONSTRATION with love The DIRECTION for love The DISTINCTION by love
What’s your LOVE language? 6
Love Language Quiz (1) DIRECTIONS: Choose only 1 answer per set of questions,
even though more than one may apply. These questions pertain to you as a child, a parent, a friend or a partner (This activity was borrowed from the Family Life Educator, Spring 1993)
Q1: What statement best describes you?
A) Physically expressive B) Verbally expressive C) Goal oriented
Love Language Quiz – (2) Q2: As a child I received: A) Hugs and kisses B) Verbal praise C) Gifts and presents Q3: My family demonstrated love:
A) By touching B) By telling each other C) It was just understood
Love Language Quiz – (3)) Q4: In communicating affection to my partner, I prefer to give: A) Tender kisses B) Tender words C) A gift of tender meaning Q5: I would most enjoying receiving from my partner: A) A hug and a kiss when we meet in the evening B) A phone call during the day C) A surprise note expressing appreciation
Love Language Quiz – (4) Q6: I would rather have my partner: A) Be physically expressive and loving B) Recognize my efforts with words of appreciation
C) Repair or mend a small thing (door, pants) Q7: For a gift, I would most enjoy:
A) A coupon that said, “Good for 1 month of morning kisses” B) A personal, handwritten love letter C) My favorite home cooked meal or dinner at a nice restaurant
Love Language Quiz – (5) Q8: I would prefer: A) A night on the town and a late night dinner for two B) To have my partner pay me a compliment in the company of
friends, family or just when we’re alone C) Help me with the dishes, mow the lawn or work on a project with me Q9: I would prefer: A) A kiss
B) The words, “I love you” C) A small gift
Love Language Quiz – (6) Q10: I would prefer: A) A romantic weekend B) A long heart-to-heart talk C) A clean house or well-kept yard Q11: It is more important to have my partner
A) sit close to me in the car B) Talk to me about the day’s events C) Remember to run an errand for me
Love Language Quiz – (7) Q12: I would rather: A) Be embraced and treated romantically B) Be told I am loved C) Be shown, by hard work, that I am loved Q13: I would prefer to have my partner
A) Reach out and touch me B) Say, “I love you” C) Surprise me with a good deed
Love Language Quiz – (8) Q14: I would prefer giving: A) An embrace B) A kind word C) Flowers Q15: I prefer expressing appreciation by:
A) A pat on the back B) A phone call C) Some money
Love Language Quiz – (9) Q16: Which one of these statement do you most agree? A) I would rather hold hands in public or walk arm-in-arm
and mean it, than live in a fancy house. B) I would rather be told I was loved than be married to a workaholic who is always giving me everything but him / herself. C) You should not have to tell people you love them all the time; they should know it by the way they are treated. We’re almost finished keep going …
Love Language Quiz- (10) Q17: I most agree that: A) Just being held can be emotionally satisfying B) You cannot know a person unless you really talk to them
C) There is a time and a place for everything- showing affection
in public makes me nervous Q18: As a reward for “good grades” I would give: A) Some physical expression B) Some praise
C) Some money
Love Language Quiz – (11) Q19: I would be most inclined to criticize a teenager for: A) Not being respectful of their parents wishes B) Not being appreciative of what they have C) Not keeping their room clean Q20: As a parent, I would be more inclined to: A) Spank B) Scold
C) Make the child sit in the corner
Love Language Quiz – (12) Q21: If I enjoyed dancing, I would do so because of: A) Physical closeness B) Social interaction C) Physical exercise Q22: As a parent of a young child, I would prefer:
A) Playing games B) Reading to them C) Going for a walk
Love Language Quiz – End ! Q23: Basically I am: A) Romantic
Circle the letter which had
the largest number
B) Talkative C) Hard working ADD all your
ANSWERS: A answers = ____ B answers = ____ C answers = ____
A
B C
Quiz Results: A The TOUCH oriented person may be misunderstood
because all too often touch implies a sexual connotation, most touching however is non-sexual. Touch can comfort, show appreciation, show approval, give encouragement, be reassuring, give confidence, show empathy and many other emotions.
Reaching a Touch Oriented Person Actions and activities that will clearly indicate to this type of person that you care include: Give a pat on the back, massage the shoulders, rub their feet Wipe away a tear, put your arm around them Giving a hug / kiss when greeting or departing Holding hands while talking Sitting close in public and private Give one or two examples of Jesus touching someone in need …
Quiz Results: B The verbal oriented person loves the heart-to-heart talk.
This person enjoys visiting with people, on the phone or in person. A warm and sincere compliment would most often be preferred over a gift or even a warm hug. They may not be good listeners themselves, but enjoy relationships with people who are good active listeners.
Reaching a Verbally Oriented Person To demonstrate care and concern: Practice active listening Make phone calls often
Send notes / poems Have heart-to-heart talks; Confide in them Give compliments, frequently Say, “I Love You…” Set aside time to talk, routinely
Give one or two examples of Jesus speaking care and concern ...
Quiz Results: C The task oriented person makes lists, establishes budgets,
and generally lives by an appointment book. This person has great expectations of themselves. Task oriented people can get carried away with “doing” and often try to do too many things. This can set them up for extreme stress and pressure.
Reaching a Task-Oriented Person To relate to the task oriented person: Keep a clean house Be thrifty with money Have clothes, cleaned, ironed, folded or hung Be dependable – on time Work side-by-side on projects Do something (can surprise with gifts) Give one or two examples of Jesus doing something to show care / concern …
The Connection Our SALVATION Our SANCTIFICATION Our PRESENTATION Our IDENTIFICATION
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LOOK in the BOOK Acts 10:34 I Corinthians 9:19-23 Ephesians 2:8-10 Romans 10:12-13 Romans 5:6-8 Galatians 2:20 Galatians 5:22-23, 25 John 1:11-12
The Commitment ACTIONS we must do PLACES we must GO BARRIERS we must face
FAITH we must demonstrate HOPE we must share HELP we must offer LOVE we must show
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LOOK in the BOOK Matthew 28:18-20 Acts 1:8 Romans 8:35-39 Hebrews 11:6 Psalm 31:24 Galatians 6:1-2 John 13:35
About the Facilitator: C.W. Flood B.S. in Psychology, Michigan State
University M.A. in Ministry Leadership and Administration, Lancaster Bible College Presently serves at St. Timothy Christian Baptist Church as an Associate Minister and as an intergenerational instructor for the Sunday School, Vacation Bible School, and Youth ministry. 28
Carmi Washington Flood
Workshop Objectives In this workshop we will examine and discuss the biblical mandate to exemplify LOVE as outlined in John 13:34-35, looking specifically at the 4 elements of the text: The COMMAND The CHALLENGE The CONNECTION The COMMITMENT 2
Focal Text: John 13:34-35 “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”
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Hitting the Target What does LOVE look like? What does LOVE act like? How are LOVE and OBEDIENCE
related? LOOK in the BOOK John 3:16-17 I Corinthians 13 I John 4:7-8 John 14:15, 21, 23-24, 31 4
The New Command Is the command to LOVE
new? Does the NEW commandment do away the ten? Why does Jesus only identify two commandments? So, what’s NEW about the NEW? 5
LOOK in the BOOK Exodus 20:1-17 Deuteronomy 5:1-22 Deuteronomy 6:4-7 Leviticus 19:18 Matthew 5:17-19 Matthew 22:36-40 Luke 10:27 Romans 13:9-10
The Challenge The DECISION to love The DEMONSTRATION with love The DIRECTION for love The DISTINCTION by love
What’s your LOVE language? 6
Love Language Quiz (1) DIRECTIONS: Choose only 1 answer per set of questions,
even though more than one may apply. These questions pertain to you as a child, a parent, a friend or a partner (This activity was borrowed from the Family Life Educator, Spring 1993)
Q1: What statement best describes you?
A) Physically expressive B) Verbally expressive C) Goal oriented
Love Language Quiz – (2) Q2: As a child I received: A) Hugs and kisses B) Verbal praise C) Gifts and presents Q3: My family demonstrated love:
A) By touching B) By telling each other C) It was just understood
Love Language Quiz – (3)) Q4: In communicating affection to my partner, I prefer to give: A) Tender kisses B) Tender words C) A gift of tender meaning Q5: I would most enjoying receiving from my partner: A) A hug and a kiss when we meet in the evening B) A phone call during the day C) A surprise note expressing appreciation
Love Language Quiz – (4) Q6: I would rather have my partner: A) Be physically expressive and loving B) Recognize my efforts with words of appreciation
C) Repair or mend a small thing (door, pants) Q7: For a gift, I would most enjoy:
A) A coupon that said, “Good for 1 month of morning kisses” B) A personal, handwritten love letter C) My favorite home cooked meal or dinner at a nice restaurant
Love Language Quiz – (5) Q8: I would prefer: A) A night on the town and a late night dinner for two B) To have my partner pay me a compliment in the company of
friends, family or just when we’re alone C) Help me with the dishes, mow the lawn or work on a project with me Q9: I would prefer: A) A kiss
B) The words, “I love you” C) A small gift
Love Language Quiz – (6) Q10: I would prefer: A) A romantic weekend B) A long heart-to-heart talk C) A clean house or well-kept yard Q11: It is more important to have my partner
A) sit close to me in the car B) Talk to me about the day’s events C) Remember to run an errand for me
Love Language Quiz – (7) Q12: I would rather: A) Be embraced and treated romantically B) Be told I am loved C) Be shown, by hard work, that I am loved Q13: I would prefer to have my partner
A) Reach out and touch me B) Say, “I love you” C) Surprise me with a good deed
Love Language Quiz – (8) Q14: I would prefer giving: A) An embrace B) A kind word C) Flowers Q15: I prefer expressing appreciation by:
A) A pat on the back B) A phone call C) Some money
Love Language Quiz – (9) Q16: Which one of these statement do you most agree? A) I would rather hold hands in public or walk arm-in-arm
and mean it, than live in a fancy house. B) I would rather be told I was loved than be married to a workaholic who is always giving me everything but him / herself. C) You should not have to tell people you love them all the time; they should know it by the way they are treated. We’re almost finished keep going …
Love Language Quiz- (10) Q17: I most agree that: A) Just being held can be emotionally satisfying B) You cannot know a person unless you really talk to them
C) There is a time and a place for everything- showing affection
in public makes me nervous Q18: As a reward for “good grades” I would give: A) Some physical expression B) Some praise
C) Some money
Love Language Quiz – (11) Q19: I would be most inclined to criticize a teenager for: A) Not being respectful of their parents wishes B) Not being appreciative of what they have C) Not keeping their room clean Q20: As a parent, I would be more inclined to: A) Spank B) Scold
C) Make the child sit in the corner
Love Language Quiz – (12) Q21: If I enjoyed dancing, I would do so because of: A) Physical closeness B) Social interaction C) Physical exercise Q22: As a parent of a young child, I would prefer:
A) Playing games B) Reading to them C) Going for a walk
Love Language Quiz – End ! Q23: Basically I am: A) Romantic
Circle the letter which had
the largest number
B) Talkative C) Hard working ADD all your
ANSWERS: A answers = ____ B answers = ____ C answers = ____
A
B C
Quiz Results: A The TOUCH oriented person may be misunderstood
because all too often touch implies a sexual connotation, most touching however is non-sexual. Touch can comfort, show appreciation, show approval, give encouragement, be reassuring, give confidence, show empathy and many other emotions.
Reaching a Touch Oriented Person Actions and activities that will clearly indicate to this type of person that you care include: Give a pat on the back, massage the shoulders, rub their feet Wipe away a tear, put your arm around them Giving a hug / kiss when greeting or departing Holding hands while talking Sitting close in public and private Give one or two examples of Jesus touching someone in need …
Quiz Results: B The verbal oriented person loves the heart-to-heart talk.
This person enjoys visiting with people, on the phone or in person. A warm and sincere compliment would most often be preferred over a gift or even a warm hug. They may not be good listeners themselves, but enjoy relationships with people who are good active listeners.
Reaching a Verbally Oriented Person To demonstrate care and concern: Practice active listening Make phone calls often
Send notes / poems Have heart-to-heart talks; Confide in them Give compliments, frequently Say, “I Love You…” Set aside time to talk, routinely
Give one or two examples of Jesus speaking care and concern ...
Quiz Results: C The task oriented person makes lists, establishes budgets,
and generally lives by an appointment book. This person has great expectations of themselves. Task oriented people can get carried away with “doing” and often try to do too many things. This can set them up for extreme stress and pressure.
Reaching a Task-Oriented Person To relate to the task oriented person: Keep a clean house Be thrifty with money Have clothes, cleaned, ironed, folded or hung Be dependable – on time Work side-by-side on projects Do something (can surprise with gifts) Give one or two examples of Jesus doing something to show care / concern …
The Connection Our SALVATION Our SANCTIFICATION Our PRESENTATION Our IDENTIFICATION
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LOOK in the BOOK Acts 10:34 I Corinthians 9:19-23 Ephesians 2:8-10 Romans 10:12-13 Romans 5:6-8 Galatians 2:20 Galatians 5:22-23, 25 John 1:11-12
The Commitment ACTIONS we must do PLACES we must GO BARRIERS we must face
FAITH we must demonstrate HOPE we must share HELP we must offer LOVE we must show
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LOOK in the BOOK Matthew 28:18-20 Acts 1:8 Romans 8:35-39 Hebrews 11:6 Psalm 31:24 Galatians 6:1-2 John 13:35
About the Facilitator: C.W. Flood B.S. in Psychology, Michigan State
University M.A. in Ministry Leadership and Administration, Lancaster Bible College Presently serves at St. Timothy Christian Baptist Church as an Associate Minister and as an intergenerational instructor for the Sunday School, Vacation Bible School, and Youth ministry. 28
Carmi Washington Flood
