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30 Days to Parenting Success Lesson 12: Practice Day
Success Stories
The past two days, you’ve learned two very powerful tools, including the most-effective five-star tool: 1. Don’t Say Don’t a. Use positive words to make requests that describe the behavior you want to see. 2. No No’s a. Deny requests using positive words. These tools, when you use them as a part of your daily parenting, can prevent many types of misbehavior and problems. So I want you to take today to just practice using these tools before you learn the remaining tools in the Prevention Toolbox. Here’s a fun way to practice them. You just need a partner. Even your child can be your partner, but I’ll warn you that once your child learns this tool, they may have some fun with you later to test your skills or remind you to use the tool when you forget. If you are open to that feedback and won’t get defensive, then it will dramatically speed up your mastery of this most-important skill! Simon Won’t Say “Don’t”
The Parent’s Toolshop® has given me some great tools to improve my relationships with both my children and others that I work, meet, and deal with. It has shown me areas that I can improve in for how I relate with my children. It has reinforced and strengthened areas in my life. I have the book now as a resource to go back to and refer to over the coming years. -- Garth Stolz, Dayton, OH
If everybody had access to the information taught in this class and applied it to their parenting, children and parents would definitely be happier and healthier -- Lisa McCoy, Dayton, OH
Get a partner and stand facing each other. Decide who will be “Simon” first. Round 1: do for 1 minute Simon will give his/her partner commands of what TO do. Simon is not allowed to use the words “Don’t, Stop, Quit or No.” If the partner hears any of those words, they are to ignore what Simon said and not follow the command. Round 2: do for two minutes Whoever is not Simon does whatever he/she wants to do. (Such as jump, stand, or run.) Simon must make the partner stop that action and do a different, related action (such as “stand still, sit, or walk) without touching the partner or using the words “Don’t, Stop, Quit or No.” Trade places and do both rounds again. Process by asking yourself: 1. Which kinds of commands are easier to follow, those that tell you what TO do or those that tell you to stop/quit/don’t do something? 2. Which kinds of commands are easier to give, telling people don’t/stop/quit or telling them what you want them TO do? 3. If you think it’s easier to use don’t/no/stop/quit, but know someone is more likely to do what you want them to do if you use positive words, are you willing to make the extra effort to give descriptions that help them cooperate faster and better?
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Or order the individual session “Get Cooperation Without Squeezing the Juice out of Kids!” http://askjjp.com/cooperation
It will help you apply and learn the skills in today’s lesson.
30 Days to Parenting Success The Parents Toolshop Book: ACTION STEPS: 1. Join the Parent Success Club Gold Member call/webinar this week, especially if you want or need any support putting these tools into action. 2. Share your results in the comment section of this lesson post to inspire other parents or get feedback from parents and Certified Parents Toolshop® Leaders.
Get your copy today!
http://askjjp.com/book
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Success Stories
The past two days, you’ve learned two very powerful tools, including the most-effective five-star tool: 1. Don’t Say Don’t a. Use positive words to make requests that describe the behavior you want to see. 2. No No’s a. Deny requests using positive words. These tools, when you use them as a part of your daily parenting, can prevent many types of misbehavior and problems. So I want you to take today to just practice using these tools before you learn the remaining tools in the Prevention Toolbox. Here’s a fun way to practice them. You just need a partner. Even your child can be your partner, but I’ll warn you that once your child learns this tool, they may have some fun with you later to test your skills or remind you to use the tool when you forget. If you are open to that feedback and won’t get defensive, then it will dramatically speed up your mastery of this most-important skill! Simon Won’t Say “Don’t”
The Parent’s Toolshop® has given me some great tools to improve my relationships with both my children and others that I work, meet, and deal with. It has shown me areas that I can improve in for how I relate with my children. It has reinforced and strengthened areas in my life. I have the book now as a resource to go back to and refer to over the coming years. -- Garth Stolz, Dayton, OH
If everybody had access to the information taught in this class and applied it to their parenting, children and parents would definitely be happier and healthier -- Lisa McCoy, Dayton, OH
Get a partner and stand facing each other. Decide who will be “Simon” first. Round 1: do for 1 minute Simon will give his/her partner commands of what TO do. Simon is not allowed to use the words “Don’t, Stop, Quit or No.” If the partner hears any of those words, they are to ignore what Simon said and not follow the command. Round 2: do for two minutes Whoever is not Simon does whatever he/she wants to do. (Such as jump, stand, or run.) Simon must make the partner stop that action and do a different, related action (such as “stand still, sit, or walk) without touching the partner or using the words “Don’t, Stop, Quit or No.” Trade places and do both rounds again. Process by asking yourself: 1. Which kinds of commands are easier to follow, those that tell you what TO do or those that tell you to stop/quit/don’t do something? 2. Which kinds of commands are easier to give, telling people don’t/stop/quit or telling them what you want them TO do? 3. If you think it’s easier to use don’t/no/stop/quit, but know someone is more likely to do what you want them to do if you use positive words, are you willing to make the extra effort to give descriptions that help them cooperate faster and better?
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Check out the
http://askjjp.com/lunchandlearn
Or order the individual session “Get Cooperation Without Squeezing the Juice out of Kids!” http://askjjp.com/cooperation
It will help you apply and learn the skills in today’s lesson.
30 Days to Parenting Success The Parents Toolshop Book: ACTION STEPS: 1. Join the Parent Success Club Gold Member call/webinar this week, especially if you want or need any support putting these tools into action. 2. Share your results in the comment section of this lesson post to inspire other parents or get feedback from parents and Certified Parents Toolshop® Leaders.
Get your copy today!
http://askjjp.com/book
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