5 Compassionate Parenting Tools Workshop
Create Connection and Communication in Your Home - 5 Compassionate Parenting Tools Workshop Cecilia Hilkey, MA and Jason Hilkey
PROBLEM #1: In addition to the daily struggles, parents worry______________________ ________________________________________________________________________ . What do you want your kids to be like in 30 years? _________________________________________________________________________ TRUTH #1: _______________________________________ don’t teach kids how to behave. __________________________________ need to get bigger over time __________________________________ cause child to focus on themselves. __________________________________ undermine natural motivation. __________________________________ don’t teach skills. TRUTH #2: Raising kids with _____________ will prepare them for the real world. ___________ impacts performance. Employers want people with ____________________ . We learn ___________________ through our experience. TRUTH #3: Compassionate parenting is not _____________________________ . Compassionate parents ______________________________________________________ .
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SOLUTION #1: Be a __________________________________________ . Compassionate Parenting is: Respectful and _____________________ . Child is _____________________ . Child helps _____________________ . _____________________ is at the core.
PROBLEM #2: How do I learn how to be a _____________________ ? “The Pendulum Swing” Too _____________________ Too _____________________ Settling in the Middle You are _____________________; kids feel understood. You are _____________________; kids feel satisfied. You tap into your ___________________ . 4 STAGES OF LEARNING (TO PARENT) Unconscious _______________________ Parents who don’t know any better _______________________ unskilled Parents who know what to do, but not how _______________________ skilled Parents who know what to do and how, but takes a long time _______________________ skilled Parents who respond in a compassionate way automatically You can _______________________ like a plane
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CASE STUDY: You are able _______________________ . You get to the _______________________ . You have a way to _______________________ . Your child _______________________ . You feel _______________________ . You build _______________________ with your child. Your child starts _______________________ . Your child becomes _______________________ . SOLUTION #2: Increase self awareness Practice your tools. PROBLEM #3: What are the tools and how do I use them? _______________________ , _______________________ , and _______________________ shape the brain. Practice makes _______________________ . Frequency of fights is not as important as _______________________ .
TOOL #1:_____________ Game Self _______________________ _______________________ plan Self _______________________ _______________________ © 2017 Happily Family www.HappilyFamily.com
TOOL #2: _______________________ Communication _______________________ what is happening Identify the _______________________ Identify the _______________________ Make a _______________________ TOOL #3: Create _______________________ Kids and adults agree how to _______________________ Agreement gets _______________________ Agreements are _______________________ TOOL #4: ________________ Building _______________________ _______________________ Time _______________________ Meetings _______________________
TOOL # 5: _______________________ Setting _________ create safety Top _________ _________ are adjusted over time _________ values _________ safety
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What would happen if you could take these 5 tools and put them in place in your life?
Which one would make the biggest difference in your family?
Which one are you going to start doing in your family this week?
Conclusion:
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PROBLEM #1: In addition to the daily struggles, parents worry______________________ ________________________________________________________________________ . What do you want your kids to be like in 30 years? _________________________________________________________________________ TRUTH #1: _______________________________________ don’t teach kids how to behave. __________________________________ need to get bigger over time __________________________________ cause child to focus on themselves. __________________________________ undermine natural motivation. __________________________________ don’t teach skills. TRUTH #2: Raising kids with _____________ will prepare them for the real world. ___________ impacts performance. Employers want people with ____________________ . We learn ___________________ through our experience. TRUTH #3: Compassionate parenting is not _____________________________ . Compassionate parents ______________________________________________________ .
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SOLUTION #1: Be a __________________________________________ . Compassionate Parenting is: Respectful and _____________________ . Child is _____________________ . Child helps _____________________ . _____________________ is at the core.
PROBLEM #2: How do I learn how to be a _____________________ ? “The Pendulum Swing” Too _____________________ Too _____________________ Settling in the Middle You are _____________________; kids feel understood. You are _____________________; kids feel satisfied. You tap into your ___________________ . 4 STAGES OF LEARNING (TO PARENT) Unconscious _______________________ Parents who don’t know any better _______________________ unskilled Parents who know what to do, but not how _______________________ skilled Parents who know what to do and how, but takes a long time _______________________ skilled Parents who respond in a compassionate way automatically You can _______________________ like a plane
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CASE STUDY: You are able _______________________ . You get to the _______________________ . You have a way to _______________________ . Your child _______________________ . You feel _______________________ . You build _______________________ with your child. Your child starts _______________________ . Your child becomes _______________________ . SOLUTION #2: Increase self awareness Practice your tools. PROBLEM #3: What are the tools and how do I use them? _______________________ , _______________________ , and _______________________ shape the brain. Practice makes _______________________ . Frequency of fights is not as important as _______________________ .
TOOL #1:_____________ Game Self _______________________ _______________________ plan Self _______________________ _______________________ © 2017 Happily Family www.HappilyFamily.com
TOOL #2: _______________________ Communication _______________________ what is happening Identify the _______________________ Identify the _______________________ Make a _______________________ TOOL #3: Create _______________________ Kids and adults agree how to _______________________ Agreement gets _______________________ Agreements are _______________________ TOOL #4: ________________ Building _______________________ _______________________ Time _______________________ Meetings _______________________
TOOL # 5: _______________________ Setting _________ create safety Top _________ _________ are adjusted over time _________ values _________ safety
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What would happen if you could take these 5 tools and put them in place in your life?
Which one would make the biggest difference in your family?
Which one are you going to start doing in your family this week?
Conclusion:
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