Your Epic Life Blueprint
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
Your Epic Life Blueprint Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 1 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
Faulty assumptions are one of the biggest sources of relational turmoil. A faulty assumption is a logical but inaccurate assumption regarding a situation, usually based on personal bias. For example, a faulty assumption is believing your partner should know EXACTLY what you're thinking and feeling without you having to tell them. Use this exercise to examine the assumptions you might have about your relationship and your partner. Once you've identified them, replace them with statements that are accurate. Doing this alone, will have a profound impact on your relationships and how you feel in them. Step 1: Check and see if you believe any of the assumptions on the list below: 1. To demonstrate love, my mate must tell me he or she loves me several times daily. 2. If I don’t feel romantic with my partner, it means we aren’t in love any longer. 3. My partner should meet all my needs, especially all my needs for intimacy. 4. My partner should support all my ideas. 5. When I’ve had a bad day, my mate should be able to sense it and should do something to cheer me up without my having to tell him or her. 6. My partner should not expect me to be courteous and polite. That’s what marriage is about, being yourself and not having to put on a show. 7. My partner should be able to know how to stimulate me when we’re making love. I shouldn’t have to tell him or her what to do and when to do it. ______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 2 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
8. My mate and I should do almost everything as a couple if we are to maintain a happy relationship. 9. I should be able to keep my partner from getting unhappy. 10. My partner and I should never argue or disagree if our relationship is good. Step 2: Write down any faulty assumptions you have that on this list and ones that aren't on this list. Step 3: Replace your faulty assumptions with something healthier for you and your relationship. For example, replace "my partner should support all my ideas" with "my partner can be supportive me as a person, even if he/she disagrees with my idea." #1 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#1 New Assumption: _______________________________________________
#2 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#2 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #3 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 3 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
#3 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #4 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#4 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #5 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#5 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #6 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#6 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #7 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 4 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
#7 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #8 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#8 New Assumption: _______________________________________________
Remember, you CAN change the way you think about your partner and your relationship. The choice is yours!
______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 5 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
Your Epic Life Blueprint Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 1 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
Faulty assumptions are one of the biggest sources of relational turmoil. A faulty assumption is a logical but inaccurate assumption regarding a situation, usually based on personal bias. For example, a faulty assumption is believing your partner should know EXACTLY what you're thinking and feeling without you having to tell them. Use this exercise to examine the assumptions you might have about your relationship and your partner. Once you've identified them, replace them with statements that are accurate. Doing this alone, will have a profound impact on your relationships and how you feel in them. Step 1: Check and see if you believe any of the assumptions on the list below: 1. To demonstrate love, my mate must tell me he or she loves me several times daily. 2. If I don’t feel romantic with my partner, it means we aren’t in love any longer. 3. My partner should meet all my needs, especially all my needs for intimacy. 4. My partner should support all my ideas. 5. When I’ve had a bad day, my mate should be able to sense it and should do something to cheer me up without my having to tell him or her. 6. My partner should not expect me to be courteous and polite. That’s what marriage is about, being yourself and not having to put on a show. 7. My partner should be able to know how to stimulate me when we’re making love. I shouldn’t have to tell him or her what to do and when to do it. ______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 2 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
8. My mate and I should do almost everything as a couple if we are to maintain a happy relationship. 9. I should be able to keep my partner from getting unhappy. 10. My partner and I should never argue or disagree if our relationship is good. Step 2: Write down any faulty assumptions you have that on this list and ones that aren't on this list. Step 3: Replace your faulty assumptions with something healthier for you and your relationship. For example, replace "my partner should support all my ideas" with "my partner can be supportive me as a person, even if he/she disagrees with my idea." #1 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#1 New Assumption: _______________________________________________
#2 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#2 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #3 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 3 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
#3 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #4 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#4 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #5 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#5 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #6 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#6 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #7 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 4 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
GETTING ALONG WITH THE PRIDE
#7 New Assumption: _______________________________________________ #8 Faulty Assumption: _______________________________________________
#8 New Assumption: _______________________________________________
Remember, you CAN change the way you think about your partner and your relationship. The choice is yours!
______________________________________________________________________ Module 5: Getting along with the pride 5 Identifying Faulty Assumptions Exercise
