humility corrects
FALL SEASON WRAP-UP
1.
What was the highlight of the season for you?
2.
Do you plan to return to the group next season?
3.
What was your change goal for the season, and how can you continue to pursue that goal? How are you doing with the secret sauce of humility?
4.
Write down one action step from this season that you plan to take on your journey with God. Share it with your group.
5.
In what area of your life have you seen the most growth or development this season? What do you think contributed to that growth? Have you celebrated it?
6.
What have you seen in others in your group this season that you have appreciated? Take a moment to encourage them.
7.
Take some time to fill out the Community Group survey at https:// www.surveymonkey.com/r/KXQSZYD.
8.
If your group is interested in doing a service project, please contact me at [email protected] or Susan Ellis, our Compassion Director, at [email protected].
For questions on this week's message, look online at the Community Group Leaders page.
week 3
November 12, 2017
Scott Simmerok
lead pastor
HUMILITY CORRECTS Matthew 18:15-20 The Matthew 18 Problem How do you humbly let someone know that they are living in disobedience to God? Humility says, “I need to tell you something …” How do you humbly receive correction when you are the one living in disobedience? Humility also says, “I am wrong.” STEP 1: Clarify the __________________.
“If your brother or sister sins (against you)…” Matthew 18:15a
Is this person a Christian? Is the issue a clear, on-going sin or about my preference or offense? Is this a problem that I am willing to follow through with all the steps? Is God’s reputation at stake as this person represents him to our city? Is this a degree of sin that needs correcting or one that we should let go without mentioning?
STEP 2: Go to the person _______________ and address the problem.
“Go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” Matthew 18:15b 500 sands drive, san jose ca 95125 | www.churchonthehill.com
STEP 4: As a last resort, share the problem with their Christian We get this wrong when we … 1. Falsely think we aren’t to judge. 2. Tell anyone else about this first. 3. Stay silent. 4. Avoid the person, hoping it is someone else’s job. 5. Correct out of vengeance. 6. Rush the process—crawl this out, instead of walk it out.
“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.” Galatians 6:1 (See James 5:19-20 and Leviticus 19:17-18.)
How do you know they have “listened to you”? Repentance, change of behavior Restoration to God and to you Unity among God’s people We should move to the next step when they ... 1. Refuse to give you an audience. 2. Reject what you have to say or try to justify their actions. 3. Don’t understand what you are trying to say. 4. Don’t do anything about the situation to make it right.
_____________________.
“If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church.” Matthew 18:17a What’s the definition of “church” in this context? The whole universal church? People who show up to the worship gathering? Church leaders? Others in the same community as the sinning Christian? STEP 5: After all else fails, they have made the decision to be an ___________________ looking in.
“If they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them like a pagan or a tax collector.” Matthew 18:17b “Formal church discipline is the appropriate course of action whenever a church member’s failure to represent Jesus becomes so characteristic and habitual that the church no longer believes he or she is a Christian.” Church Discipline: How the Church protects the name of Jesus , Jonathan Leeman
How should Christians treat a pagan or tax collector? Jesus treated them with love, encouragement, dinner, and friendship. STEP 3: Get help from a couple of _________________________________ Christians.
“But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by two or three witnesses.’” Matthew 18:16
(See Matthew 9:9; Luke 18 10-14; Luke 19:5; and Matthew 11:19.)
They are excluded not from coming to church worship but from membership, communion, and leadership.
Church discipline in the early church (See Titus 3:10 and 2 Thessalonians 3:14-15.)
Who are the witnesses? Christians Not gossips (Proverbs 20:19) Spiritually mature people, full of integrity (Galatians 6:1) Impartial—and able to correct the corrector if need be What do the witnesses do? Give a second opinion and wise counsel. Teach to clarify the biblical understanding, “Did I sin?” Help resolve a Christian’s sin by involving as few people as possible.
We have a tremendous capacity to get this wrong in two ways: 1. Avoiding the necessary correction and not taking God seriously. 2. Correcting, but lacking compassion that creates a soft place for them to land back in a Christian community.
The secret sauce to this correction working is
HUMILITY.
1.
What was the highlight of the season for you?
2.
Do you plan to return to the group next season?
3.
What was your change goal for the season, and how can you continue to pursue that goal? How are you doing with the secret sauce of humility?
4.
Write down one action step from this season that you plan to take on your journey with God. Share it with your group.
5.
In what area of your life have you seen the most growth or development this season? What do you think contributed to that growth? Have you celebrated it?
6.
What have you seen in others in your group this season that you have appreciated? Take a moment to encourage them.
7.
Take some time to fill out the Community Group survey at https:// www.surveymonkey.com/r/KXQSZYD.
8.
If your group is interested in doing a service project, please contact me at [email protected] or Susan Ellis, our Compassion Director, at [email protected].
For questions on this week's message, look online at the Community Group Leaders page.
week 3
November 12, 2017
Scott Simmerok
lead pastor
HUMILITY CORRECTS Matthew 18:15-20 The Matthew 18 Problem How do you humbly let someone know that they are living in disobedience to God? Humility says, “I need to tell you something …” How do you humbly receive correction when you are the one living in disobedience? Humility also says, “I am wrong.” STEP 1: Clarify the __________________.
“If your brother or sister sins (against you)…” Matthew 18:15a
Is this person a Christian? Is the issue a clear, on-going sin or about my preference or offense? Is this a problem that I am willing to follow through with all the steps? Is God’s reputation at stake as this person represents him to our city? Is this a degree of sin that needs correcting or one that we should let go without mentioning?
STEP 2: Go to the person _______________ and address the problem.
“Go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” Matthew 18:15b 500 sands drive, san jose ca 95125 | www.churchonthehill.com
STEP 4: As a last resort, share the problem with their Christian We get this wrong when we … 1. Falsely think we aren’t to judge. 2. Tell anyone else about this first. 3. Stay silent. 4. Avoid the person, hoping it is someone else’s job. 5. Correct out of vengeance. 6. Rush the process—crawl this out, instead of walk it out.
“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.” Galatians 6:1 (See James 5:19-20 and Leviticus 19:17-18.)
How do you know they have “listened to you”? Repentance, change of behavior Restoration to God and to you Unity among God’s people We should move to the next step when they ... 1. Refuse to give you an audience. 2. Reject what you have to say or try to justify their actions. 3. Don’t understand what you are trying to say. 4. Don’t do anything about the situation to make it right.
_____________________.
“If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church.” Matthew 18:17a What’s the definition of “church” in this context? The whole universal church? People who show up to the worship gathering? Church leaders? Others in the same community as the sinning Christian? STEP 5: After all else fails, they have made the decision to be an ___________________ looking in.
“If they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them like a pagan or a tax collector.” Matthew 18:17b “Formal church discipline is the appropriate course of action whenever a church member’s failure to represent Jesus becomes so characteristic and habitual that the church no longer believes he or she is a Christian.” Church Discipline: How the Church protects the name of Jesus , Jonathan Leeman
How should Christians treat a pagan or tax collector? Jesus treated them with love, encouragement, dinner, and friendship. STEP 3: Get help from a couple of _________________________________ Christians.
“But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by two or three witnesses.’” Matthew 18:16
(See Matthew 9:9; Luke 18 10-14; Luke 19:5; and Matthew 11:19.)
They are excluded not from coming to church worship but from membership, communion, and leadership.
Church discipline in the early church (See Titus 3:10 and 2 Thessalonians 3:14-15.)
Who are the witnesses? Christians Not gossips (Proverbs 20:19) Spiritually mature people, full of integrity (Galatians 6:1) Impartial—and able to correct the corrector if need be What do the witnesses do? Give a second opinion and wise counsel. Teach to clarify the biblical understanding, “Did I sin?” Help resolve a Christian’s sin by involving as few people as possible.
We have a tremendous capacity to get this wrong in two ways: 1. Avoiding the necessary correction and not taking God seriously. 2. Correcting, but lacking compassion that creates a soft place for them to land back in a Christian community.
The secret sauce to this correction working is
HUMILITY.
