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Without Words
Man Talk For Girls
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s someone who’s done every permutation of men’s dating coaching—from in person to phone to email and Skype—I can confidently say that one of the biggest areas of confusion is the concept of “sparking emotions.” Guys usually mistake this concept for its extremes. They become overly goofy, dramatic, bizarre, or even gushy. I understand why this is so confusing. As men, we’re not “genetically programmed” to fully understand how to communicate in emotions. Just like none of us are running out to catch the latest Twilight movies or catching up on the latest celebrity gossip, we also don’t necessarily feel a need to communicate
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Welcome Emotionsto Without PhoneWords Game with much emotion. In a way, it’s like learning how to write with the opposite hand. It feels unnatural, weird, and sloppy. Though, if you truly want to master male-to-female communication, learning to communicate emotionally is one of the most important skills you need to hone. Lucky for all you manly men out there, I have some good news: communicating emotionally is much more “masculine” than you realize. That’s because “emotional communication” is intended to get a woman feeling feminine. “Feeling feminine.” Consider that phrase. To get a girl to feel feminine, you don’t act feminine. No, you act masculine. Unfortunately, most guys don’t understand how to act masculine, so they don’t understand how to communicate emotionally. And thus, most guys suck at communicating with women. Now, since it’s assumed that you’ve already read Magnetic Messaging, and so you probably have seen countless examples of “masculine communication.” Whether it’s telling a woman that you had a “cup of coffee brewed by the hand of God” or that you saw a creepy old man on a scooter, you’re always making statements rather asking questions. The statement is a perfect example of masculine communication because it’s assertive, confident, and “dominates” a
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Welcome Emotionsto Without PhoneWords Game conversation. It causes a woman to consider the statement, react, and usually ask a question (which are all examples of “feminine” responses). Though, this month’s report isn’t about “verbal” communication. Instead, to further clarify this concept of “emotional communication,” we’re going to explain how to get her “feeling feminine” without words.
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Welcome Some to Phone Techniques Game
Some Techniques
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ne of the easiest and most effective to wordlessly evoke her emotions is by using the element of surprise. As Bobby and I point out in Magnetic Messaging, “patterns” are often fatal to keeping the spark alive in relationships. If you and a woman fall into a very predictable pattern then she’ll likely stop feeling the emotions that made her attracted to you in the first place. Therefore, you absolutely want to avoid patterns! Even if it’s a girl you’re not dating, sometimes doing something “out of character” is the right move. For example, I was recently coaching a guy who was dealing with a “flake.” This guy was obsessed with trying to elicit this girl’s emotions using crafty text messages. Now, while there’s nothing wrong with that, he could do much more “heavy lifting” by simply using the element of surprise to his advantage. (And no, I’m not advocating “surprising” a woman by jumping out of a closet wearing a ski mask!) Sometimes “surprising” her can be as simple as going “radio
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Welcome Some to Phone Techniques Game silent” on her for a few weeks and then texting her out of the blue as if nothing happened. Imagine this in your own life: you probably have a few people whom you text with every few days. Now imagine if one of those people suddenly went AWOL. At first, you probably wouldn’t notice. But after a week or two, likely you’d start to wonder: are they okay? Did I do something to offend them? What happened? Then, when they suddenly text you…BAM! It ignites your emotions! With women, the end result is magnified. Even if a girl isn’t giving you a response, sometimes going “silent” is what you need to do to “re-charge” her emotions. Moreover, sometimes not answering a text message of hers packs more of an emotional punch than anything you could possibly write. Don’t be like the guys who just go for the “easy way” or the “quick fix.” Sometimes creating an emotion in a woman takes a bit of creativity and “outside the box” thinking. While using words is the most obvious way to spark an emotion, it’s still only one way. There is a wealth of other ways at your manly disposal to get her feeling “feminine.” Another “classic” phone game trick is the old “dropped call” cliffhanger. The concept behind this little ninja tactic is to pretend to drop a call right as you’re telling a woman a story or
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Welcome Some to Phone Techniques Game you’re telling her about something she’s interested in. Now, this “tactic” can come across very transparent and try-hard if not applied correctly, so use caution. Yet, the reasoning behind it is sound. You tickle a woman’s emotions and, right as you’re about to give her a “release,” you cut the call short. For those who don’t want to “pretend” to drop a call, you can simple say, “Hey, something just came up…gotta run” and then quickly hang up the phone. Regardless how you do it, abruptly ending a phone conversation or text interaction is another great way to evoke an emotional response in a woman. As I said, use a little creative thinking to devise your own ways to get a woman feeling feminine and emotional. Indeed, the “tactics” you come up with on your own will probably work the best, since they’re more congruent with your style and personality. Ultimately, use the examples in this report to further your understanding of emotional communication. Also, you may want to reread some of the “key-lock” examples in Magnetic Messaging. With your expanded understanding of emotional communication, you will probably see more than you did on first reading. Until then, keep it emotional. Keep it masculine. And keep her feeling feminine!
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Further Resources: Dating Advice from Bobby and Rob
Make Small Talk Sexy: Conversation Escalation Conversation Escalation is a step-bystep system that will show you how to use flirtatious and sexy “small talk” to quickly engage, connect with, and “turn on” a woman… The program is jam packed with step by step instructions and word-forword examples of exactly what to say (and how to say it)… so that your words nestle their way in, and take complete control of her emotions… And will completely IMPLANT the skill of carrying a “flirtatious” conversation with a woman into your game, brain, and personality, and make it a PERMANENT part of you. (So you never struggle again)
http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/secrets
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Welcome Further to Phone Resources Game
The 4 Elements of Game: Date the Girls You REALLY Want The 4 Elements of Game won Dating Skills Review Editor’s Choice award for its simple effectiveness. This classic of men’s dating advice makes improving your ability to meet and attract women a simple process. Written by award-winning writer Rob Judge, this easy-to-read book isn’t going to dramatically change your personality. Instead, it’s going to teach you how to use BALANCE to attract more women with less effort. Women will see your MOST ATTRACTIVE personality whether you are the life of the party or more of the QUIET and CHILL type. This book will teach you a dating philosophy that fits to YOUR personality like an expensive, perfectly tailored suit.
http://ebook.datehottergirls.com
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Welcome Further to Phone Resources Game
The Natural Approach I call this program “The Natural Approach” because it allows you to learn to meet women in the same way you learned everything else you’re good at... Naturally …And, it allows you to still be your natural, authentic self while still doing things that actually work and attract dozens of women into your life… You will learn a simple secret that gets rid of your fears of approaching women, and actually makes it a lot easier.
http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/natural
The Advanced Dating Strategies The Advanced Dating Strategies translates the exact behavior that women find sexy into an easy-to-follow system that you can master. Whether you want to meet and date more women or just attract one special woman, The Advanced Dating Strategies will give you everything you need to display your most attractive personality. Unlike any other dating product, The Advanced Dating Strategies is completely revolutionary because it’s a compressive training course.
http://www.advanceddatingstrategies.net/go/
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m o n t h
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B o bb y R i o Rob Judge
Emotions
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Without Words
Man Talk For Girls
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s someone who’s done every permutation of men’s dating coaching—from in person to phone to email and Skype—I can confidently say that one of the biggest areas of confusion is the concept of “sparking emotions.” Guys usually mistake this concept for its extremes. They become overly goofy, dramatic, bizarre, or even gushy. I understand why this is so confusing. As men, we’re not “genetically programmed” to fully understand how to communicate in emotions. Just like none of us are running out to catch the latest Twilight movies or catching up on the latest celebrity gossip, we also don’t necessarily feel a need to communicate
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Welcome Emotionsto Without PhoneWords Game with much emotion. In a way, it’s like learning how to write with the opposite hand. It feels unnatural, weird, and sloppy. Though, if you truly want to master male-to-female communication, learning to communicate emotionally is one of the most important skills you need to hone. Lucky for all you manly men out there, I have some good news: communicating emotionally is much more “masculine” than you realize. That’s because “emotional communication” is intended to get a woman feeling feminine. “Feeling feminine.” Consider that phrase. To get a girl to feel feminine, you don’t act feminine. No, you act masculine. Unfortunately, most guys don’t understand how to act masculine, so they don’t understand how to communicate emotionally. And thus, most guys suck at communicating with women. Now, since it’s assumed that you’ve already read Magnetic Messaging, and so you probably have seen countless examples of “masculine communication.” Whether it’s telling a woman that you had a “cup of coffee brewed by the hand of God” or that you saw a creepy old man on a scooter, you’re always making statements rather asking questions. The statement is a perfect example of masculine communication because it’s assertive, confident, and “dominates” a
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Welcome Emotionsto Without PhoneWords Game conversation. It causes a woman to consider the statement, react, and usually ask a question (which are all examples of “feminine” responses). Though, this month’s report isn’t about “verbal” communication. Instead, to further clarify this concept of “emotional communication,” we’re going to explain how to get her “feeling feminine” without words.
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Welcome Some to Phone Techniques Game
Some Techniques
O
ne of the easiest and most effective to wordlessly evoke her emotions is by using the element of surprise. As Bobby and I point out in Magnetic Messaging, “patterns” are often fatal to keeping the spark alive in relationships. If you and a woman fall into a very predictable pattern then she’ll likely stop feeling the emotions that made her attracted to you in the first place. Therefore, you absolutely want to avoid patterns! Even if it’s a girl you’re not dating, sometimes doing something “out of character” is the right move. For example, I was recently coaching a guy who was dealing with a “flake.” This guy was obsessed with trying to elicit this girl’s emotions using crafty text messages. Now, while there’s nothing wrong with that, he could do much more “heavy lifting” by simply using the element of surprise to his advantage. (And no, I’m not advocating “surprising” a woman by jumping out of a closet wearing a ski mask!) Sometimes “surprising” her can be as simple as going “radio
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Welcome Some to Phone Techniques Game silent” on her for a few weeks and then texting her out of the blue as if nothing happened. Imagine this in your own life: you probably have a few people whom you text with every few days. Now imagine if one of those people suddenly went AWOL. At first, you probably wouldn’t notice. But after a week or two, likely you’d start to wonder: are they okay? Did I do something to offend them? What happened? Then, when they suddenly text you…BAM! It ignites your emotions! With women, the end result is magnified. Even if a girl isn’t giving you a response, sometimes going “silent” is what you need to do to “re-charge” her emotions. Moreover, sometimes not answering a text message of hers packs more of an emotional punch than anything you could possibly write. Don’t be like the guys who just go for the “easy way” or the “quick fix.” Sometimes creating an emotion in a woman takes a bit of creativity and “outside the box” thinking. While using words is the most obvious way to spark an emotion, it’s still only one way. There is a wealth of other ways at your manly disposal to get her feeling “feminine.” Another “classic” phone game trick is the old “dropped call” cliffhanger. The concept behind this little ninja tactic is to pretend to drop a call right as you’re telling a woman a story or
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Welcome Some to Phone Techniques Game you’re telling her about something she’s interested in. Now, this “tactic” can come across very transparent and try-hard if not applied correctly, so use caution. Yet, the reasoning behind it is sound. You tickle a woman’s emotions and, right as you’re about to give her a “release,” you cut the call short. For those who don’t want to “pretend” to drop a call, you can simple say, “Hey, something just came up…gotta run” and then quickly hang up the phone. Regardless how you do it, abruptly ending a phone conversation or text interaction is another great way to evoke an emotional response in a woman. As I said, use a little creative thinking to devise your own ways to get a woman feeling feminine and emotional. Indeed, the “tactics” you come up with on your own will probably work the best, since they’re more congruent with your style and personality. Ultimately, use the examples in this report to further your understanding of emotional communication. Also, you may want to reread some of the “key-lock” examples in Magnetic Messaging. With your expanded understanding of emotional communication, you will probably see more than you did on first reading. Until then, keep it emotional. Keep it masculine. And keep her feeling feminine!
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Further Resources: Dating Advice from Bobby and Rob
Make Small Talk Sexy: Conversation Escalation Conversation Escalation is a step-bystep system that will show you how to use flirtatious and sexy “small talk” to quickly engage, connect with, and “turn on” a woman… The program is jam packed with step by step instructions and word-forword examples of exactly what to say (and how to say it)… so that your words nestle their way in, and take complete control of her emotions… And will completely IMPLANT the skill of carrying a “flirtatious” conversation with a woman into your game, brain, and personality, and make it a PERMANENT part of you. (So you never struggle again)
http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/secrets
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Welcome Further to Phone Resources Game
The 4 Elements of Game: Date the Girls You REALLY Want The 4 Elements of Game won Dating Skills Review Editor’s Choice award for its simple effectiveness. This classic of men’s dating advice makes improving your ability to meet and attract women a simple process. Written by award-winning writer Rob Judge, this easy-to-read book isn’t going to dramatically change your personality. Instead, it’s going to teach you how to use BALANCE to attract more women with less effort. Women will see your MOST ATTRACTIVE personality whether you are the life of the party or more of the QUIET and CHILL type. This book will teach you a dating philosophy that fits to YOUR personality like an expensive, perfectly tailored suit.
http://ebook.datehottergirls.com
10
Welcome Further to Phone Resources Game
The Natural Approach I call this program “The Natural Approach” because it allows you to learn to meet women in the same way you learned everything else you’re good at... Naturally …And, it allows you to still be your natural, authentic self while still doing things that actually work and attract dozens of women into your life… You will learn a simple secret that gets rid of your fears of approaching women, and actually makes it a lot easier.
http://www.makesmalltalksexy.com/natural
The Advanced Dating Strategies The Advanced Dating Strategies translates the exact behavior that women find sexy into an easy-to-follow system that you can master. Whether you want to meet and date more women or just attract one special woman, The Advanced Dating Strategies will give you everything you need to display your most attractive personality. Unlike any other dating product, The Advanced Dating Strategies is completely revolutionary because it’s a compressive training course.
http://www.advanceddatingstrategies.net/go/
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