Mastermind Success
Three Feet from Gold
Module 18
Mastermind Success Reading Assignments • Review pages 7-26, 83-95 of Three Feet From Gold • Read any additional selections your coach recommends:
Primer S e s s i o n O b j e c t i v e s
M a s t e r S e s s i o n O b j e ctives
In this session you will learn to:
In this session you will learn to:
• Use your unique set of skills to become a Mastermind Mentor
• Plan around your niche and your strengths in aspects of life to impart the most profound mentoring experience possible • Leverage your strengths to overcome your own challenges as a mentor and plan for acquiring new skills, knowledge, and opportunities
• Help others to experience success—in much the same way that you have
Three Feet from Gold
Concept Summaries Introduction You’ve definitely learned through this program that success is contagious. That’s probably the greatest benefit of applying the Mastermind principle—that the circle of success grows and grows. It is our dream at Three Feet from Gold Mastermind Mentoring that we take this message to the world—that we elevate the whole of society by helping people learn the time-tested secrets for fulfilling their highest purpose and greatest dreams.
Why Mentor? Remember that one of the most powerful portions of The Success Equation is Association. Richard Cohn worked tirelessly for years to make ends meet as a publisher. It wasn’t until he made the right Association that he launched into “overnight success.” He had to work with the right people to create miracles. Remember also Don Green’s early piece of wisdom: Select your path and then: • One—Seek the counsel of those who have expertise outside your own. • Two—Never quit three feet from gold. • Three—When you become successful, you will find others whom you can mentor. Share with them the lesson you have learned. And remember that Jonathan Buckland also advised Greg to: Seek counsel, not opinions, and then pass it on.
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Three Feet from Gold The marvelous thing about serving as a mentor—about teaching someone else something you learned is that you learn something in the process. Jonathan Buckland learned a new lesson from his first encounter with Greg: Whether the glass is half empty or half full depends on where it began. This was a perfect case of a mentor learning from the person being mentored. Never underestimate the insight and wisdom you can gain from sharing what you’ve learned. You may find that you make your own greatest life changes when you help others on the path to self-discovery.
Evaluating People You Mentor It’s important not to allow the people you mentor to pull away from your own personal development plan. After all, it’s often easier to clean up someone else’s house than it is to clean your own. Don’t let the work you do with them to undo the work you’ve done on yourself. This will take some work. As well, your mentoring protégés will have to work to be sure that they are making progress, that your time together is not in vain. You will have to establish benchmarks, accountability, and feedback.
Friendly, Not Familiar As a mentor, you occupy a very unique position in a person’s life. It’s important to be as objective about that person as you can be—for their own sake. To be effective, you may need to keep a friendly distance. This is known as friendly, not familiar. While it’s true that you can be a friend to the people you mentor, you probably can’t begin mentoring friends. That’s because unless they approach you, it’s almost impossible to approach them. There are natural ways you will find yourself mentoring people in your life, but in the context of Three Feet from
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Three Feet from Gold Gold Mastermind Mentoring, we want you to consider mentoring a select group of people that you may not know very well. This will give you the necessary objectivity you need to provide honest, respectful feedback without compromising an existing relationship. Jonathan Buckland did not know Greg when he first began mentoring him. How do you think the results might have been different if Greg had been his nephew or son—or the son of a close friend? The friendly, not familiar clause kept Jonathan from being too subjective. Yes, Jonathan had his own motivations—some involving his own personal life as you’ll recall the coincidence of Buckland’s daughter passing away from addiction and Greg’s connection to David Engel. It is not bad to have motivations, as long as you are in tune with what they truly are. Remember, the process of mentoring is about opening yourself up, opening up the mind of the person you mentor, and opening up the possibilities that come with life’s greatest challenges. NEVER STOP THREE FEET FROM GOLD!
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Three Feet from Gold
Primer Session Assignments: Discuss with your mentor which of the following assignments would best suit your needs, progress, and development:
____ What Is Your Niche? ____ Your Motives For Mentoring Others ____ Evaluating Potential Candidates ____ Mentoring: Code Of Conduct ____ Evaluating People You Mentor ____ Friendly, Not Familiar ____ Interpersonal Skills: What You Do Well ____ Interpersonal Skills: Opportunities ____ Address Your Opportunities
Master Session Assignments: Discuss with your mentor which of the following assignments would best suit your needs, progress, and development:
____ What You Bring As Mentor Vocation Health Spiritual Enlightenment
Personal Growth Home And Family Life Social Responsibilities
____ Your Personal Plan: Skills, Knowledge, & Opportunity
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Primer Session
Exercises
W H AT IS YOUR NICHE? Why would you make a good mentor? What unique perspective do you have that would enable you to bring something to someone’s life that few—or no other—people could? Brainstorm ten: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
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Primer Session
Exercises
YO U R MOTIVES FOR M E N T ORING OTHERS If you want to be an objective mentor (a must), then you’ll need to understand your own personal motives for mentoring other people. Mentoring shouldn’t be about you. It should be about the person you are mentoring. List your motives and the potential impact they could have on the mentoring experience you provide for someone else:
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Primer Session
Exercises
E V A LUATING POTENTIAL C ANDIDATES Not everyone is ready to be mentored. Remember that Greg had to be at a point in his life where he was ready to accept the wisdom other people would give. He also had to be ready to use it—to make it worthwhile for himself and to be sure his mentors didn’t waste their time. How will you evaluate potential candidates?
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Primer Session
Exercises
MENTORING: YO U R C ODE OF CONDUCT Just as you and your personal Mastermind(s) had to fully develop your code of conduct to maintain ultimate harmony, you will need to define the same specific set of ground rules for your interaction with the people you mentor. take the time with your team to hammer out the details for each aspect of conduct (and any others that come to mind). Write your team’s personal guidelines for: Brainstorming
Critical Analysis (how best to deliver Constructive Criticism to people you mentor)
Values
Attitude (maintaining a PMA)
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Primer Session
Exercises
C O D E OF CONDUCT (cont) Mission Mantra
Session Discussions (How will you maintain the agenda of each session—who will determine the course?
Conferencing (Will you mentor people in groups? What times and places are appropriate?)
Offline items (Will you allow people you mentor in groups to contact each other? How? Why or why not?)
Reporting/Accountability (How will you hold the people you mentor accountable?)
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Primer Session
Exercises
C O D E OF CONDUCT (cont) Rules of Confidentiality
Repurcussions (for breaking code)
Evaluating Progress
Adding Members (If mentoring in groups)
Grounds for Dismissal (from your tutelage, your mentoring)
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Primer Session
Exercises
E V A LUATING THE P E O P LE YOU MENTOR Act As If you’ve mentored someone. What does that person thank you for? How do you envision having a positive impact on that person?
List the ways you plan on evaluating that person’s progress so that he or she sees their true accomplishments and life change:
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Primer Session
Exercises
FRIENDLY, N OT FAMILIAR What rules will you set for yourself regarding objectivity and maintaining a friendly, not familiar environment of trust?
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Primer Session
Exercises
I N T E R P ERSONAL SKILLS: W H AT YOU DO WELL List five things you do well—five interpersonal skills you have that would help you be a fantastic mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Primer Session
Exercises
I N T E R P ERSONAL SKILLS: O P PORTUNITIES List five things you feel will be a challenge for you as a mentor—five areas of improvement you will need to make to feel confidence and serve as a fantastic mentor. List why you think that improving these areas will give you (and the people you mentor) what you need: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Primer Session
Exercises
I N T E R P ERSONAL SKILLS: ADDRESS YOUR OPPORTUNITIES How will you address each of the five challenges you listed in the previous exercise: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
W H AT YOU BRING A S M E NTOR: VOCATION Brainstorm five potential skills within your vocation you could offer the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: P E R S ONAL GROWTH Brainstorm five potential skills within the aspect of personal growth you could offer the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: HEALTH Brainstorm five potential skills relating to health that you could offer the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: H O M E & FAMILY LIFE Brainstorm five potential skills within your experience you could offer the people you mentor— regarding their home and family life: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT Brainstorm five potential unique skills that could make you a great source of spiritual enlightenment to the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: S O C I A L RESPONSIBILITIES What background in social work, volunteering, or charity do you have that could help the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
YOUR PERSONAL PLAN: SKILLS, KNOWLEDGE, & OPPORTUNITY As you embark on your journey to complete the ultimate Mastermind Circle—becoming a mentor yourself—what personal plan will you make to acquire the necessary skills, knowledge, and opportunities to be successful?
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Module 18
Mastermind Success Reading Assignments • Review pages 7-26, 83-95 of Three Feet From Gold • Read any additional selections your coach recommends:
Primer S e s s i o n O b j e c t i v e s
M a s t e r S e s s i o n O b j e ctives
In this session you will learn to:
In this session you will learn to:
• Use your unique set of skills to become a Mastermind Mentor
• Plan around your niche and your strengths in aspects of life to impart the most profound mentoring experience possible • Leverage your strengths to overcome your own challenges as a mentor and plan for acquiring new skills, knowledge, and opportunities
• Help others to experience success—in much the same way that you have
Three Feet from Gold
Concept Summaries Introduction You’ve definitely learned through this program that success is contagious. That’s probably the greatest benefit of applying the Mastermind principle—that the circle of success grows and grows. It is our dream at Three Feet from Gold Mastermind Mentoring that we take this message to the world—that we elevate the whole of society by helping people learn the time-tested secrets for fulfilling their highest purpose and greatest dreams.
Why Mentor? Remember that one of the most powerful portions of The Success Equation is Association. Richard Cohn worked tirelessly for years to make ends meet as a publisher. It wasn’t until he made the right Association that he launched into “overnight success.” He had to work with the right people to create miracles. Remember also Don Green’s early piece of wisdom: Select your path and then: • One—Seek the counsel of those who have expertise outside your own. • Two—Never quit three feet from gold. • Three—When you become successful, you will find others whom you can mentor. Share with them the lesson you have learned. And remember that Jonathan Buckland also advised Greg to: Seek counsel, not opinions, and then pass it on.
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Three Feet from Gold The marvelous thing about serving as a mentor—about teaching someone else something you learned is that you learn something in the process. Jonathan Buckland learned a new lesson from his first encounter with Greg: Whether the glass is half empty or half full depends on where it began. This was a perfect case of a mentor learning from the person being mentored. Never underestimate the insight and wisdom you can gain from sharing what you’ve learned. You may find that you make your own greatest life changes when you help others on the path to self-discovery.
Evaluating People You Mentor It’s important not to allow the people you mentor to pull away from your own personal development plan. After all, it’s often easier to clean up someone else’s house than it is to clean your own. Don’t let the work you do with them to undo the work you’ve done on yourself. This will take some work. As well, your mentoring protégés will have to work to be sure that they are making progress, that your time together is not in vain. You will have to establish benchmarks, accountability, and feedback.
Friendly, Not Familiar As a mentor, you occupy a very unique position in a person’s life. It’s important to be as objective about that person as you can be—for their own sake. To be effective, you may need to keep a friendly distance. This is known as friendly, not familiar. While it’s true that you can be a friend to the people you mentor, you probably can’t begin mentoring friends. That’s because unless they approach you, it’s almost impossible to approach them. There are natural ways you will find yourself mentoring people in your life, but in the context of Three Feet from
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Three Feet from Gold Gold Mastermind Mentoring, we want you to consider mentoring a select group of people that you may not know very well. This will give you the necessary objectivity you need to provide honest, respectful feedback without compromising an existing relationship. Jonathan Buckland did not know Greg when he first began mentoring him. How do you think the results might have been different if Greg had been his nephew or son—or the son of a close friend? The friendly, not familiar clause kept Jonathan from being too subjective. Yes, Jonathan had his own motivations—some involving his own personal life as you’ll recall the coincidence of Buckland’s daughter passing away from addiction and Greg’s connection to David Engel. It is not bad to have motivations, as long as you are in tune with what they truly are. Remember, the process of mentoring is about opening yourself up, opening up the mind of the person you mentor, and opening up the possibilities that come with life’s greatest challenges. NEVER STOP THREE FEET FROM GOLD!
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Three Feet from Gold
Primer Session Assignments: Discuss with your mentor which of the following assignments would best suit your needs, progress, and development:
____ What Is Your Niche? ____ Your Motives For Mentoring Others ____ Evaluating Potential Candidates ____ Mentoring: Code Of Conduct ____ Evaluating People You Mentor ____ Friendly, Not Familiar ____ Interpersonal Skills: What You Do Well ____ Interpersonal Skills: Opportunities ____ Address Your Opportunities
Master Session Assignments: Discuss with your mentor which of the following assignments would best suit your needs, progress, and development:
____ What You Bring As Mentor Vocation Health Spiritual Enlightenment
Personal Growth Home And Family Life Social Responsibilities
____ Your Personal Plan: Skills, Knowledge, & Opportunity
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Primer Session
Exercises
W H AT IS YOUR NICHE? Why would you make a good mentor? What unique perspective do you have that would enable you to bring something to someone’s life that few—or no other—people could? Brainstorm ten: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
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Primer Session
Exercises
YO U R MOTIVES FOR M E N T ORING OTHERS If you want to be an objective mentor (a must), then you’ll need to understand your own personal motives for mentoring other people. Mentoring shouldn’t be about you. It should be about the person you are mentoring. List your motives and the potential impact they could have on the mentoring experience you provide for someone else:
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Primer Session
Exercises
E V A LUATING POTENTIAL C ANDIDATES Not everyone is ready to be mentored. Remember that Greg had to be at a point in his life where he was ready to accept the wisdom other people would give. He also had to be ready to use it—to make it worthwhile for himself and to be sure his mentors didn’t waste their time. How will you evaluate potential candidates?
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Primer Session
Exercises
MENTORING: YO U R C ODE OF CONDUCT Just as you and your personal Mastermind(s) had to fully develop your code of conduct to maintain ultimate harmony, you will need to define the same specific set of ground rules for your interaction with the people you mentor. take the time with your team to hammer out the details for each aspect of conduct (and any others that come to mind). Write your team’s personal guidelines for: Brainstorming
Critical Analysis (how best to deliver Constructive Criticism to people you mentor)
Values
Attitude (maintaining a PMA)
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Primer Session
Exercises
C O D E OF CONDUCT (cont) Mission Mantra
Session Discussions (How will you maintain the agenda of each session—who will determine the course?
Conferencing (Will you mentor people in groups? What times and places are appropriate?)
Offline items (Will you allow people you mentor in groups to contact each other? How? Why or why not?)
Reporting/Accountability (How will you hold the people you mentor accountable?)
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Primer Session
Exercises
C O D E OF CONDUCT (cont) Rules of Confidentiality
Repurcussions (for breaking code)
Evaluating Progress
Adding Members (If mentoring in groups)
Grounds for Dismissal (from your tutelage, your mentoring)
11
Primer Session
Exercises
E V A LUATING THE P E O P LE YOU MENTOR Act As If you’ve mentored someone. What does that person thank you for? How do you envision having a positive impact on that person?
List the ways you plan on evaluating that person’s progress so that he or she sees their true accomplishments and life change:
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Primer Session
Exercises
FRIENDLY, N OT FAMILIAR What rules will you set for yourself regarding objectivity and maintaining a friendly, not familiar environment of trust?
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Primer Session
Exercises
I N T E R P ERSONAL SKILLS: W H AT YOU DO WELL List five things you do well—five interpersonal skills you have that would help you be a fantastic mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Primer Session
Exercises
I N T E R P ERSONAL SKILLS: O P PORTUNITIES List five things you feel will be a challenge for you as a mentor—five areas of improvement you will need to make to feel confidence and serve as a fantastic mentor. List why you think that improving these areas will give you (and the people you mentor) what you need: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Primer Session
Exercises
I N T E R P ERSONAL SKILLS: ADDRESS YOUR OPPORTUNITIES How will you address each of the five challenges you listed in the previous exercise: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
W H AT YOU BRING A S M E NTOR: VOCATION Brainstorm five potential skills within your vocation you could offer the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: P E R S ONAL GROWTH Brainstorm five potential skills within the aspect of personal growth you could offer the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: HEALTH Brainstorm five potential skills relating to health that you could offer the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: H O M E & FAMILY LIFE Brainstorm five potential skills within your experience you could offer the people you mentor— regarding their home and family life: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT Brainstorm five potential unique skills that could make you a great source of spiritual enlightenment to the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
WHAT YOU BRING AS MENTOR: S O C I A L RESPONSIBILITIES What background in social work, volunteering, or charity do you have that could help the people you mentor: 1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Master Session
Exercises
YOUR PERSONAL PLAN: SKILLS, KNOWLEDGE, & OPPORTUNITY As you embark on your journey to complete the ultimate Mastermind Circle—becoming a mentor yourself—what personal plan will you make to acquire the necessary skills, knowledge, and opportunities to be successful?
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