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Gary Chappell CEO of Nightingale-Conant The World’s Largest Personal-Development Company www.Nightingale.com
S egm en t III - F ami ly & Sp irit u a lit y
~Meet~
Gary Chappell CEO of Nightingale-Conant Few people on the planet that have touched the lives of so many other human beings as Gary Chappell. His efforts have given birth to more spiritual self-help and financial gurus than anybody else that I know of. I actually consider him the father of virtually all modern gurus, because of his ability to identify ‘diamonds in the rough’, polish them up and put them on the center stage of changing people’s lives for good. In fact, an endorsement and joint venture with this man is considered the pinnacle of success by most up and coming gurus. Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Zig Zigler, Denis Waitley, T. Harv Eker, Joe Vitale, Marianne Williamson and Robert Kiyosaki and many, many others in the self-help and personal development fields can trace their quantum leaps to the day that they connected with this man and his company. To learn more about how Gary Chappell and Nightingale-Conant can positively influence your life, simply visit: www.Nightingale.com
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Gary Chappell ~ Segment III ~ Family & Spirituality
Hello, this is Joshua Boswell and you’re listening to The Voice of Wealth. This is segment #3 of my private conversation with Gary Chappell, CEO of Nightingale-Conant. Experts tell us that there are three main areas of our life that predominate our thoughts, our feelings and the use of our time. Those are money, health, and our relationships. Now can you guess which one of these is the six hundred pound gorilla in the mix? Well you’re right, it’s relationships. Relationships with others help us define who we are, how we perceive ourselves and define normalicy so that we know if we are crazy or not. Relationships give us feelings of joy, sadness, success or defeat, peace or trouble. Come to think of it, why do we get in shape, make money and go the extra mile and do all the things that we do? I’d submit to you that it’s for no other reason than to enhance our relationships. Ask yourself this question, ‘if you were the only person on earth, how much of what you do in a 24-hour period would you still be doing?’ Well my guess is not that much. Of course the question is ludicrous. Connecting with human beings in one way or another is what makes us who we are. Now let me go a little deeper into this area and this idea of relationships by breaking it down into three main categories. First there is our relationship with ourselves. C.S. Lewis taught the profound idea that of all the creatures on earth, humans are the only ones with self awareness. That is to say we can step back and look at ourselves as disassociated outsiders. This is a remarkable trait, it allows for reasoning and self improvement, ingenuity, advancement of ideas, personal growth, knowledge and a thousand, thousand other qualities that only human beings possess.
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 2 of 6
This ability necessitates that we have a good relationship with ourselves because more often than not we will be stepping back and evaluating our own performance, our own ideals, our own standards and our own thoughts. We will, in fact, be judging ourselves against ourselves. It’s a fascinating concept that I’ll go deeper into in future interviews. The second relationship to consider is the one that we have with our family. Every single person on earth is connected to a family. Otherwise we wouldn’t be here. Family relations are among the most powerful in their ability to define us and invoke all the extremes of human emotion and experience. Few people are neutral about their family system. Since Gary is going to talk a lot about this subject today, I’m going to leave it at that. But you will notice something very interesting as we go through future interviews. At one point or another, every successful person I have met or have studied has had to establish a strong, healthy family relationship before they can move forward. Now mark that statement well. It is a universal truth. If people become estranged from their parents and siblings they always seek to connect with wife, children or other human beings and to create a sort of family system; and when people become disconnected from a family system of any kind they immediately begin losing their grip on true wealth and success. I have never seen it otherwise. Finally, there’s the relationship with God, or perhaps I should say a higher power. At least something greater outside of ourselves. No I’m not going to preach a sermon to you at this point, though for those who know me well, if you know that I could and preach a long one at that. But the simple fact is this; every truly successful and truly wealthy human being that I have ever met or studied has reached out to a higher power. To some, it is God. To some, it is what they call nature and to other it is darker powers. Call it what you may, all of us instinctively know that there are forces outside of mankind that are bigger, smarter and more powerful. It is to those higher powers that we turn as we begin the ascent to true wealth. The ways and means of doing this are as varied and as numerous as the sands of the sea. And I’m not here to define or even to discuss those, though you must know I have a very strong opinion and belief in this matter. Like other successful
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 3 of 6
people, these beliefs are central to who I am, they are the core of the core, of Joshua Boswell. One of those beliefs is a strong, overarching conviction that all human beings have a right to believe and worship whomever and however they will. My point is this; there is a relationship that exists between man and a higher power. Infinite intelligence as Napoleon Hill described it. And it must be nurtured and nourished in order to enjoy true wealth. During our visit together, I pressed Gary Chappell on his views and ideas about family and spiritual relationships. Most people skirt these kinds of topics but I feel that is a huge mistake. Gary has a great deal to share on these topics, as you’ll see. Well enough for me, I’m going to turn you over to Gary now. For me the key point of today’s segment is that you must develop unified human relationships and that those relationships show up in three categories of self, family and God. Your assignment then is to carefully listen to Gary and then formulate your own action plan as to how you will strengthen, nourish and enlarge those key relationships. Joshua Boswell: How many children do you have now Gary? Gary Chappell: I have two children and let me just tell you that story about my children. So I was dating my wife and I can’t say I really proposed to her. After a year and half of dating she said, “You know Gary, either marry me and have kids or I’m moving on.” It was kind of a reverse proposal, you know, and I said, “Well, let me think about that.” I ultimately gave a pretty lame proposal but I admit she was a very smart woman and I’ve always been attracted to people. . . .My mom, my sisters, they’re all. My mom was one of my greatest influences in life. She was just the most loving, universal mom and very bright. So was my dad. I’ve always appreciated an intelligent woman. So my wife is a goal setter. So we got married and course now I was committed to have kids, which I did not want to have. But I loved her so much and I was willing to have the kids. So moving forward like I said earlier, when she got pregnant and when that first child popped out and you know, I don’t know if you have this. . . .You’ve got kids too right? Joshua Boswell: I have nine children. Yes.
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Gary Chappell: You’ve got nine kids. Okay, you know the experience. So when that very first child popped out it just changed me. I just instantly fell in love and that very same child popped out she made sure that my only goal in life was to be a great dad. At one time, when she was four years old I was playing, I had taken them to a family party and I was playing pool with this guy and she said, “Oh dad, what’s this? Is this a great game? Can you teach me how to do it?” I said, “Sure honey, after this game is over I’ll teach you how to play.” And a little bit of male testosterone, somebody lost and so we played two more games after that and then finally. . . I saw my daughter sitting over there with this frown on her face tearing at the net and I said, “Honey, what’s wrong with you?” And she said, “You promised me you were going to play after that game and you didn’t. You lied to me.” She stood up, put her hands on her hips, pointed at me and said, “You are not the dad for me.” Joshua Boswell: Oh my! Gary Chappell: That was probably the most damaging blow I have ever had in my life. I made a vow, to myself, on that spot that I was going to be the best dad that she could ever have. That’s one thing that I am extremely successful at, even more than my career I’ve been a tremendous dad. Joshua Boswell: Tell me what it is that you feel like has made you such a great father, such a great dad? Gary Chappell: I think more than anything else, my wife and I made a vow before the kids were even born that if nothing else we were going to make sure our kids had high self-esteem. Which oddly enough, with two girls it’s something a parent can’t control. I can tell you that story a little bit later, but because I had such a rich spiritual background and I’ve never imposed my religious beliefs with. . . . Spiritual beliefs I should say, I had no religious beliefs. I believe there is a distinction. I think religion tends to be a bit more ritualistic, there is no ritual in my spiritual pursuit other than meditation and trying to clear my mind and trying to be guided. I spend much of my. . . I often said that I’m not going to pretend I’m perfect. That I’m a man with an ego and the ego gets in the way, but I do know the value. . . If there’s any. . . If I could claim abundance and richness it would be in my spiritual outcomes and the love that I have in my life, my kids, my wife and my family.
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 5 of 6
So I think to answer your question, I focused on my kids being strong individuals, making right decisions based on. . . I’ve never imposed anything; I’ve never punished them other than. . . I’ve spanked them both once for running away in public and they get grounded from time to time. Everything I do and I’m sure you’re the same way; I always work to strengthen their thinking, their decision making, their confidence as an individual. We talk about psychology and both my kids were raised on Nightingale programs. There’s a program by Bob Moab that’s made for different ages and both of them willingly, would go to bed every night listening to those tapes. So they have been groomed on the Nightingale message and again. . . My wife grew up catholic, they went to catholic schools from kindergarten through eighth grade and I was okay with that. I went and studied all the text books they’d be learning from and they were all good and it was a positive experience. I think my parenting again. . . .To me parenting is about teaching your kids on how to be happy, confident, treat people right. You know always be good to other people, be kind. Both my kids are extremely kind, but very intelligent and they’re very popular for that reason. Not because they are over confident, but because they are just so good to so many different people. So you ask me the psychology of parenting, teaching your kids how to be a wise individual. Joshua Boswell: You said there was a story behind the self esteem? Yeah, what’s . . .? Tell me about that. Gary Chappell: You know it was very interesting because my oldest daughter. . . . Again all the time and attention that we have given her to raising her. . . . In part of that process a great customer of ours became a good friend of mine, the famous Dave Anderson. The famous Dave restaurants, are you familiar with those? He created a leadership training program and they brought in the schools and I connected with Dave and I sent a bunch of people from Nightingale through it just for Nightingale-Conant and I went through it and I was very impacted by it. So I sent my oldest daughter to him and it was transformational for her because it was out of that that she had admitted to us and to them that she had low self-
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 6 of 6
esteem; and it was really because of her peers. Having been brought up in a catholic school, that peer pressure is really powerful and I think that females, more than guys are influenced by their peers, guys too as well. But I think when it comes to self-esteem girls are a little more vulnerable, because there is the beauty issue, there’s so many. . . There’s the sex issue and there’s just so much more complications for a girl than a guy ever experiences. She came out of that thing 100% transformed, everybody saw it and she went on to do some pretty incredible things afterwards and she admitted to us she had had low self-esteem all her life. Just like The Psychology of Winning for me, kind of helped me address my self-esteem issues and that leadership training program helped her address hers. It made me aware that my youngest daughter is thirteen and when she gets a couple years older I will send her to that leadership training as well. Joshua Boswell: That’s all for today. This is Joshua Boswell and you’re listening to The Voice of Wealth.
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Gary Chappell CEO of Nightingale-Conant The World’s Largest Personal-Development Company www.Nightingale.com
S egm en t III - F ami ly & Sp irit u a lit y
~Meet~
Gary Chappell CEO of Nightingale-Conant Few people on the planet that have touched the lives of so many other human beings as Gary Chappell. His efforts have given birth to more spiritual self-help and financial gurus than anybody else that I know of. I actually consider him the father of virtually all modern gurus, because of his ability to identify ‘diamonds in the rough’, polish them up and put them on the center stage of changing people’s lives for good. In fact, an endorsement and joint venture with this man is considered the pinnacle of success by most up and coming gurus. Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Zig Zigler, Denis Waitley, T. Harv Eker, Joe Vitale, Marianne Williamson and Robert Kiyosaki and many, many others in the self-help and personal development fields can trace their quantum leaps to the day that they connected with this man and his company. To learn more about how Gary Chappell and Nightingale-Conant can positively influence your life, simply visit: www.Nightingale.com
www.TheVoiceofWealth.com
Gary Chappell ~ Segment III ~ Family & Spirituality
Hello, this is Joshua Boswell and you’re listening to The Voice of Wealth. This is segment #3 of my private conversation with Gary Chappell, CEO of Nightingale-Conant. Experts tell us that there are three main areas of our life that predominate our thoughts, our feelings and the use of our time. Those are money, health, and our relationships. Now can you guess which one of these is the six hundred pound gorilla in the mix? Well you’re right, it’s relationships. Relationships with others help us define who we are, how we perceive ourselves and define normalicy so that we know if we are crazy or not. Relationships give us feelings of joy, sadness, success or defeat, peace or trouble. Come to think of it, why do we get in shape, make money and go the extra mile and do all the things that we do? I’d submit to you that it’s for no other reason than to enhance our relationships. Ask yourself this question, ‘if you were the only person on earth, how much of what you do in a 24-hour period would you still be doing?’ Well my guess is not that much. Of course the question is ludicrous. Connecting with human beings in one way or another is what makes us who we are. Now let me go a little deeper into this area and this idea of relationships by breaking it down into three main categories. First there is our relationship with ourselves. C.S. Lewis taught the profound idea that of all the creatures on earth, humans are the only ones with self awareness. That is to say we can step back and look at ourselves as disassociated outsiders. This is a remarkable trait, it allows for reasoning and self improvement, ingenuity, advancement of ideas, personal growth, knowledge and a thousand, thousand other qualities that only human beings possess.
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 2 of 6
This ability necessitates that we have a good relationship with ourselves because more often than not we will be stepping back and evaluating our own performance, our own ideals, our own standards and our own thoughts. We will, in fact, be judging ourselves against ourselves. It’s a fascinating concept that I’ll go deeper into in future interviews. The second relationship to consider is the one that we have with our family. Every single person on earth is connected to a family. Otherwise we wouldn’t be here. Family relations are among the most powerful in their ability to define us and invoke all the extremes of human emotion and experience. Few people are neutral about their family system. Since Gary is going to talk a lot about this subject today, I’m going to leave it at that. But you will notice something very interesting as we go through future interviews. At one point or another, every successful person I have met or have studied has had to establish a strong, healthy family relationship before they can move forward. Now mark that statement well. It is a universal truth. If people become estranged from their parents and siblings they always seek to connect with wife, children or other human beings and to create a sort of family system; and when people become disconnected from a family system of any kind they immediately begin losing their grip on true wealth and success. I have never seen it otherwise. Finally, there’s the relationship with God, or perhaps I should say a higher power. At least something greater outside of ourselves. No I’m not going to preach a sermon to you at this point, though for those who know me well, if you know that I could and preach a long one at that. But the simple fact is this; every truly successful and truly wealthy human being that I have ever met or studied has reached out to a higher power. To some, it is God. To some, it is what they call nature and to other it is darker powers. Call it what you may, all of us instinctively know that there are forces outside of mankind that are bigger, smarter and more powerful. It is to those higher powers that we turn as we begin the ascent to true wealth. The ways and means of doing this are as varied and as numerous as the sands of the sea. And I’m not here to define or even to discuss those, though you must know I have a very strong opinion and belief in this matter. Like other successful
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 3 of 6
people, these beliefs are central to who I am, they are the core of the core, of Joshua Boswell. One of those beliefs is a strong, overarching conviction that all human beings have a right to believe and worship whomever and however they will. My point is this; there is a relationship that exists between man and a higher power. Infinite intelligence as Napoleon Hill described it. And it must be nurtured and nourished in order to enjoy true wealth. During our visit together, I pressed Gary Chappell on his views and ideas about family and spiritual relationships. Most people skirt these kinds of topics but I feel that is a huge mistake. Gary has a great deal to share on these topics, as you’ll see. Well enough for me, I’m going to turn you over to Gary now. For me the key point of today’s segment is that you must develop unified human relationships and that those relationships show up in three categories of self, family and God. Your assignment then is to carefully listen to Gary and then formulate your own action plan as to how you will strengthen, nourish and enlarge those key relationships. Joshua Boswell: How many children do you have now Gary? Gary Chappell: I have two children and let me just tell you that story about my children. So I was dating my wife and I can’t say I really proposed to her. After a year and half of dating she said, “You know Gary, either marry me and have kids or I’m moving on.” It was kind of a reverse proposal, you know, and I said, “Well, let me think about that.” I ultimately gave a pretty lame proposal but I admit she was a very smart woman and I’ve always been attracted to people. . . .My mom, my sisters, they’re all. My mom was one of my greatest influences in life. She was just the most loving, universal mom and very bright. So was my dad. I’ve always appreciated an intelligent woman. So my wife is a goal setter. So we got married and course now I was committed to have kids, which I did not want to have. But I loved her so much and I was willing to have the kids. So moving forward like I said earlier, when she got pregnant and when that first child popped out and you know, I don’t know if you have this. . . .You’ve got kids too right? Joshua Boswell: I have nine children. Yes.
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 4 of 6
Gary Chappell: You’ve got nine kids. Okay, you know the experience. So when that very first child popped out it just changed me. I just instantly fell in love and that very same child popped out she made sure that my only goal in life was to be a great dad. At one time, when she was four years old I was playing, I had taken them to a family party and I was playing pool with this guy and she said, “Oh dad, what’s this? Is this a great game? Can you teach me how to do it?” I said, “Sure honey, after this game is over I’ll teach you how to play.” And a little bit of male testosterone, somebody lost and so we played two more games after that and then finally. . . I saw my daughter sitting over there with this frown on her face tearing at the net and I said, “Honey, what’s wrong with you?” And she said, “You promised me you were going to play after that game and you didn’t. You lied to me.” She stood up, put her hands on her hips, pointed at me and said, “You are not the dad for me.” Joshua Boswell: Oh my! Gary Chappell: That was probably the most damaging blow I have ever had in my life. I made a vow, to myself, on that spot that I was going to be the best dad that she could ever have. That’s one thing that I am extremely successful at, even more than my career I’ve been a tremendous dad. Joshua Boswell: Tell me what it is that you feel like has made you such a great father, such a great dad? Gary Chappell: I think more than anything else, my wife and I made a vow before the kids were even born that if nothing else we were going to make sure our kids had high self-esteem. Which oddly enough, with two girls it’s something a parent can’t control. I can tell you that story a little bit later, but because I had such a rich spiritual background and I’ve never imposed my religious beliefs with. . . . Spiritual beliefs I should say, I had no religious beliefs. I believe there is a distinction. I think religion tends to be a bit more ritualistic, there is no ritual in my spiritual pursuit other than meditation and trying to clear my mind and trying to be guided. I spend much of my. . . I often said that I’m not going to pretend I’m perfect. That I’m a man with an ego and the ego gets in the way, but I do know the value. . . If there’s any. . . If I could claim abundance and richness it would be in my spiritual outcomes and the love that I have in my life, my kids, my wife and my family.
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 5 of 6
So I think to answer your question, I focused on my kids being strong individuals, making right decisions based on. . . I’ve never imposed anything; I’ve never punished them other than. . . I’ve spanked them both once for running away in public and they get grounded from time to time. Everything I do and I’m sure you’re the same way; I always work to strengthen their thinking, their decision making, their confidence as an individual. We talk about psychology and both my kids were raised on Nightingale programs. There’s a program by Bob Moab that’s made for different ages and both of them willingly, would go to bed every night listening to those tapes. So they have been groomed on the Nightingale message and again. . . My wife grew up catholic, they went to catholic schools from kindergarten through eighth grade and I was okay with that. I went and studied all the text books they’d be learning from and they were all good and it was a positive experience. I think my parenting again. . . .To me parenting is about teaching your kids on how to be happy, confident, treat people right. You know always be good to other people, be kind. Both my kids are extremely kind, but very intelligent and they’re very popular for that reason. Not because they are over confident, but because they are just so good to so many different people. So you ask me the psychology of parenting, teaching your kids how to be a wise individual. Joshua Boswell: You said there was a story behind the self esteem? Yeah, what’s . . .? Tell me about that. Gary Chappell: You know it was very interesting because my oldest daughter. . . . Again all the time and attention that we have given her to raising her. . . . In part of that process a great customer of ours became a good friend of mine, the famous Dave Anderson. The famous Dave restaurants, are you familiar with those? He created a leadership training program and they brought in the schools and I connected with Dave and I sent a bunch of people from Nightingale through it just for Nightingale-Conant and I went through it and I was very impacted by it. So I sent my oldest daughter to him and it was transformational for her because it was out of that that she had admitted to us and to them that she had low self-
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Gary Chappell ~ Page 6 of 6
esteem; and it was really because of her peers. Having been brought up in a catholic school, that peer pressure is really powerful and I think that females, more than guys are influenced by their peers, guys too as well. But I think when it comes to self-esteem girls are a little more vulnerable, because there is the beauty issue, there’s so many. . . There’s the sex issue and there’s just so much more complications for a girl than a guy ever experiences. She came out of that thing 100% transformed, everybody saw it and she went on to do some pretty incredible things afterwards and she admitted to us she had had low self-esteem all her life. Just like The Psychology of Winning for me, kind of helped me address my self-esteem issues and that leadership training program helped her address hers. It made me aware that my youngest daughter is thirteen and when she gets a couple years older I will send her to that leadership training as well. Joshua Boswell: That’s all for today. This is Joshua Boswell and you’re listening to The Voice of Wealth.
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