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SELF-RESPECT AND HOW YOU PRESENT
JOLT LEADERSHIP PROGRAM
2014
SELF RESPECT AND HOW YOU PRESENT Justin Bieber Called ‘White Trash Prince’ After Overalls Incident Justin defends himself after a reporter called him a ‘white trash prince’ for wearing overalls while meeting the Prime Minister. However, the Prime Minster didn’t seem to mind! Do YOU think Justin is ‘white trash’? The gloves are off and the claws are out! On Nov. 24, Justin Bieber met Prime Minister Stephen Harper to accept the Diamond Jubilee award, and he caused controversy. A reporter for The Daily Mail has since called Justin a “white trash prince” in an article, and the pop star took to Instagram to defend himself. Justin received a lot of criticism for his choice of wardrobe, as Twitter users and bloggers attacked him for his disrespectful outfit, as he wore a backwards baseball cap and grey overalls, while the Prime Minister, on the other hand, wore a crisp suit. Daily Mail reporter Hayley Peterson wrote the article, where she called Justin a “white trash prince,” and condemned his choice of clothing. Justin took to Instagram on Nov. 25 to defend himself, where he named the reporter personally. He said, ”The pic of me and the Prime Minister was taken in a room in the arena where i was performing at that day. I walked straight from my meet and greet to him, if you “Hayley” expect me to have a change of clothes let a loan a suit at Jolt Leadership Program
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that specific time that’s crazy, It wasn’t like it was like I was going into his environment we were at a hockey arena. Wow am i ever white trash Hayley peterson lol.” Justin, 20, obviously thought meeting the Prime Minster in overalls was funny as he tweeted, “I met the Prime Minster in overalls lol.” However, he really didn’t find being called a “white trash prince” funny! The Prime Minister was not offended by Justin’s choice of attire, as he tweeted “In fairness to @justinbieber, I told him I would be wearing my overalls too. #cdnpoli #beliebers”. Ha, that would have been a funny picture! What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers? Should the reporter have called Justin “white trash?” Was Justin right to defend himself? WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT JUSTIN’S BEHAVIOR? IS THERE AN INHERENT DEGREE OF RESPECT ONE SHOULD SHOW TO LEADERS OR GREAT PEOPLE? DOES ONE’S APPEARANCE AFFECT OR EXPRESS THEIR OWN LEVEL OF SELF-RESPECT? IF YES, HOW SO?
HOW DO YOU SEE YOURSELF? The following source relates Moshe sending spies to spy out the land of Israel. Bamidbar Chapter 13 32) And they brought a report of the land that they had spied out to the Bnai Yisrael, saying, The land that we passed through to spy it out, it is a land that consumes its inhabitance and all the people that we saw in it are huge people. 33) And we saw the Nephilim, the sons of the giant from among the Nephilim, we were like grasshoppers in our eyes and so we were in their eyes.
במדבר פרשת שלח פרק יג ָארץ אֲ ֶשר ָתרּו אֹּ ָתּה אֶ ל־בְּ נֵי י ְִּש ָראֵ ל ֶ ָלב) וַ י ִֹּציאּו ִדבַ ת ה ָארץ אֲ ֶשר עָ בַ ְּרנּו בָ ּה לָתּור אֹּ ָתּה אֶ ֶרץ אֹּ ֶכלֶת ֶ ָלֵאמֹּ ר ה ר־ר ִאינּו בְּ ת ֹּוכָּה ַאנְּ ֵשי ִמדוֹּת ָ יו ְֹּּשבֶ יהָ ִהוא וְּ ָכל־הָ עָ ם אֲ ֶש לג) וְּ ָשם ָר ִאינּו אֶ ת־הַ נְּ פִ ילִ ים בְּ נֵי עֲ נָק ִמן־הַ נְּ פִ לִ ים וַ נְּ ִהי בְּ עֵ ינֵינּו כַחֲ גָבִ ים וְּ כֵן הָ יִינּו בְּ עֵ ינֵיהֶ ם
WHAT DO YOU NOTICE ABOUT HOW THE SPIES SAW THEMSELVES?
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R’ Menachem Mendel of Kotzk After the spies spied out the land of Canaan and saw the giants who were there they claimed two things: “We were like grasshoppers in our eyes” and “we were like grasshoppers in their eyes”. Saying that we were like grasshoppers in their eyes is a statement that is hard to understand, they saw themselves as small in the eyes of the giants. What is the idea of seeing yourself in the eyes of others? The main thing is how you see yourself in your own eyes.
אמת ואמונה
WHAT IS WORSE THINKING BADLY OF YOURSELF OR THINKING THAT SOMEONE ELSE THINKS BADLY OF YOU?
שאול המלך Shmuel 1 Chapter 10 26) And also Shaul went to his house in Givah, and with him, went all the army of those whose heart was inspired by fear of God. 27) But base men said “How can this person save us!” They ridiculed him and did not bring him a tribute, but he remained mute. Metzudas David Commentary And he remained mute, He made himself silent, either he didn’t hear or he didn’t open his mouth. Talmud Bavli Yoma 22b Rabbi Yehuda said in the name of Rav, why was the Kingdom taken from Shaul? Because he forwent his honor. As it says: “The sons of the wayward ones said “how will this one save us?” and they degraded him and they did not bring him a gift and he was silent.
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שמואל א פרק י ַם־שאּול הָ לְַך לְּ בֵ ית ֹּו גִבְּ עָ ָתה וַ יֵלְּ כּו ִעּמ ֹּו הַ חַ יִל ָ כו) וְּ ג ֹלהים בְּ לִ בָ ם ִ ֱאֲ ֶשר־ ָנגַע א: ָאמרּו מַ ה־י ִֹּשעֵ נּו זֶה וַ יִבְּ זֻהּו ְּ כז) ּובְּ נֵי בְּ לִ יַעַ ל פ:וְּ ֹלא־הֵ בִ יאּו ל ֹּו ִמנְּ חָ ה וַ י ְִּהי כְּ מַ חֲ ִריש
מצודת דוד שמואל א פרק י עשה עצמו כחרש לא ישמע או כאלם- ויהי כמחריש לא יפתח פיו
תלמוד בבלי מסכת יומא דף כב עמוד ב מפני- מפני מה נענש שאול:אמר רב יהודה אמר רב שנאמר יזובני בליעל אמרו מה ישענו,שמחל על כבודו זה ויבזהו ולא הביאו לו מנחה ויהי
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WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT FOR A KING TO UPHOLD HIS OWN HONOR? HOW DOES HE DRAW THE LINE BETWEEN HONOR AND HAUGHTINESS?
Chofetz Chaim -Talking badly about yourself Famous for his learning, wisdom and humility, the Chofetz Chaim liked to travel incognito in order to avoid adulation. One day, as the Chofetz Chaim was on his way home to the Lithuanian town of Radin, the coach driver began praising a certain rabbi who happened to lived in Radin. Each time the driver uttered praise for this rabbi, the Chofetz Chaim would demur. When the driver proclaimed how learned the rabbi was, the Chofetz Chaim responded, “Nu, he is not so learned.” When the driver related how compassionate and charitable the rabbi was, the Chofetz Chaim protested, “Nu, he is not so compassionate and charitable.” When the driver described how humble a man the rabbi was, the Chofetz Chaim begged to differ: “Nu, he is not so humble.” At that point the driver had heard enough from his contrary passenger. He stopped the coach and unceremoniously threw the man to the side of the road. The next day the driver decided to pay a visit to the famed rabbi whose virtues he had extolled so forcefully. At once he recognized the rabbi as the very passenger he had left stranded the day before at the side of the road. Mortified, he began crying out, “Oy, Rebbe, please forgive me.” The Chofetz Chaim interrupted him and said: “Mein tayerer Yid, I have nothing to forgive you for. I have to thank you for teaching me a very important lesson in life. We have no right to deride ourselves. We must fully respect ourselves and never be self-deprecating.”
CONCLUDING THOUGHTS Having self respect and presenting yourself appropriately is not being haughty or high on yourself. A king must expect honor because he is the anointed one of Hashem. Likewise a human must respect himself because he is created in the image of God.
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JOLT LEADERSHIP PROGRAM
2014
SELF RESPECT AND HOW YOU PRESENT Justin Bieber Called ‘White Trash Prince’ After Overalls Incident Justin defends himself after a reporter called him a ‘white trash prince’ for wearing overalls while meeting the Prime Minister. However, the Prime Minster didn’t seem to mind! Do YOU think Justin is ‘white trash’? The gloves are off and the claws are out! On Nov. 24, Justin Bieber met Prime Minister Stephen Harper to accept the Diamond Jubilee award, and he caused controversy. A reporter for The Daily Mail has since called Justin a “white trash prince” in an article, and the pop star took to Instagram to defend himself. Justin received a lot of criticism for his choice of wardrobe, as Twitter users and bloggers attacked him for his disrespectful outfit, as he wore a backwards baseball cap and grey overalls, while the Prime Minister, on the other hand, wore a crisp suit. Daily Mail reporter Hayley Peterson wrote the article, where she called Justin a “white trash prince,” and condemned his choice of clothing. Justin took to Instagram on Nov. 25 to defend himself, where he named the reporter personally. He said, ”The pic of me and the Prime Minister was taken in a room in the arena where i was performing at that day. I walked straight from my meet and greet to him, if you “Hayley” expect me to have a change of clothes let a loan a suit at Jolt Leadership Program
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that specific time that’s crazy, It wasn’t like it was like I was going into his environment we were at a hockey arena. Wow am i ever white trash Hayley peterson lol.” Justin, 20, obviously thought meeting the Prime Minster in overalls was funny as he tweeted, “I met the Prime Minster in overalls lol.” However, he really didn’t find being called a “white trash prince” funny! The Prime Minister was not offended by Justin’s choice of attire, as he tweeted “In fairness to @justinbieber, I told him I would be wearing my overalls too. #cdnpoli #beliebers”. Ha, that would have been a funny picture! What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers? Should the reporter have called Justin “white trash?” Was Justin right to defend himself? WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT JUSTIN’S BEHAVIOR? IS THERE AN INHERENT DEGREE OF RESPECT ONE SHOULD SHOW TO LEADERS OR GREAT PEOPLE? DOES ONE’S APPEARANCE AFFECT OR EXPRESS THEIR OWN LEVEL OF SELF-RESPECT? IF YES, HOW SO?
HOW DO YOU SEE YOURSELF? The following source relates Moshe sending spies to spy out the land of Israel. Bamidbar Chapter 13 32) And they brought a report of the land that they had spied out to the Bnai Yisrael, saying, The land that we passed through to spy it out, it is a land that consumes its inhabitance and all the people that we saw in it are huge people. 33) And we saw the Nephilim, the sons of the giant from among the Nephilim, we were like grasshoppers in our eyes and so we were in their eyes.
במדבר פרשת שלח פרק יג ָארץ אֲ ֶשר ָתרּו אֹּ ָתּה אֶ ל־בְּ נֵי י ְִּש ָראֵ ל ֶ ָלב) וַ י ִֹּציאּו ִדבַ ת ה ָארץ אֲ ֶשר עָ בַ ְּרנּו בָ ּה לָתּור אֹּ ָתּה אֶ ֶרץ אֹּ ֶכלֶת ֶ ָלֵאמֹּ ר ה ר־ר ִאינּו בְּ ת ֹּוכָּה ַאנְּ ֵשי ִמדוֹּת ָ יו ְֹּּשבֶ יהָ ִהוא וְּ ָכל־הָ עָ ם אֲ ֶש לג) וְּ ָשם ָר ִאינּו אֶ ת־הַ נְּ פִ ילִ ים בְּ נֵי עֲ נָק ִמן־הַ נְּ פִ לִ ים וַ נְּ ִהי בְּ עֵ ינֵינּו כַחֲ גָבִ ים וְּ כֵן הָ יִינּו בְּ עֵ ינֵיהֶ ם
WHAT DO YOU NOTICE ABOUT HOW THE SPIES SAW THEMSELVES?
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R’ Menachem Mendel of Kotzk After the spies spied out the land of Canaan and saw the giants who were there they claimed two things: “We were like grasshoppers in our eyes” and “we were like grasshoppers in their eyes”. Saying that we were like grasshoppers in their eyes is a statement that is hard to understand, they saw themselves as small in the eyes of the giants. What is the idea of seeing yourself in the eyes of others? The main thing is how you see yourself in your own eyes.
אמת ואמונה
WHAT IS WORSE THINKING BADLY OF YOURSELF OR THINKING THAT SOMEONE ELSE THINKS BADLY OF YOU?
שאול המלך Shmuel 1 Chapter 10 26) And also Shaul went to his house in Givah, and with him, went all the army of those whose heart was inspired by fear of God. 27) But base men said “How can this person save us!” They ridiculed him and did not bring him a tribute, but he remained mute. Metzudas David Commentary And he remained mute, He made himself silent, either he didn’t hear or he didn’t open his mouth. Talmud Bavli Yoma 22b Rabbi Yehuda said in the name of Rav, why was the Kingdom taken from Shaul? Because he forwent his honor. As it says: “The sons of the wayward ones said “how will this one save us?” and they degraded him and they did not bring him a gift and he was silent.
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שמואל א פרק י ַם־שאּול הָ לְַך לְּ בֵ ית ֹּו גִבְּ עָ ָתה וַ יֵלְּ כּו ִעּמ ֹּו הַ חַ יִל ָ כו) וְּ ג ֹלהים בְּ לִ בָ ם ִ ֱאֲ ֶשר־ ָנגַע א: ָאמרּו מַ ה־י ִֹּשעֵ נּו זֶה וַ יִבְּ זֻהּו ְּ כז) ּובְּ נֵי בְּ לִ יַעַ ל פ:וְּ ֹלא־הֵ בִ יאּו ל ֹּו ִמנְּ חָ ה וַ י ְִּהי כְּ מַ חֲ ִריש
מצודת דוד שמואל א פרק י עשה עצמו כחרש לא ישמע או כאלם- ויהי כמחריש לא יפתח פיו
תלמוד בבלי מסכת יומא דף כב עמוד ב מפני- מפני מה נענש שאול:אמר רב יהודה אמר רב שנאמר יזובני בליעל אמרו מה ישענו,שמחל על כבודו זה ויבזהו ולא הביאו לו מנחה ויהי
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WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT FOR A KING TO UPHOLD HIS OWN HONOR? HOW DOES HE DRAW THE LINE BETWEEN HONOR AND HAUGHTINESS?
Chofetz Chaim -Talking badly about yourself Famous for his learning, wisdom and humility, the Chofetz Chaim liked to travel incognito in order to avoid adulation. One day, as the Chofetz Chaim was on his way home to the Lithuanian town of Radin, the coach driver began praising a certain rabbi who happened to lived in Radin. Each time the driver uttered praise for this rabbi, the Chofetz Chaim would demur. When the driver proclaimed how learned the rabbi was, the Chofetz Chaim responded, “Nu, he is not so learned.” When the driver related how compassionate and charitable the rabbi was, the Chofetz Chaim protested, “Nu, he is not so compassionate and charitable.” When the driver described how humble a man the rabbi was, the Chofetz Chaim begged to differ: “Nu, he is not so humble.” At that point the driver had heard enough from his contrary passenger. He stopped the coach and unceremoniously threw the man to the side of the road. The next day the driver decided to pay a visit to the famed rabbi whose virtues he had extolled so forcefully. At once he recognized the rabbi as the very passenger he had left stranded the day before at the side of the road. Mortified, he began crying out, “Oy, Rebbe, please forgive me.” The Chofetz Chaim interrupted him and said: “Mein tayerer Yid, I have nothing to forgive you for. I have to thank you for teaching me a very important lesson in life. We have no right to deride ourselves. We must fully respect ourselves and never be self-deprecating.”
CONCLUDING THOUGHTS Having self respect and presenting yourself appropriately is not being haughty or high on yourself. A king must expect honor because he is the anointed one of Hashem. Likewise a human must respect himself because he is created in the image of God.
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