ACEI Global Summit on Childhood â 2014
ACEI Global Summit on Childhood – 2014 April 10-13 Vancouver, BC, Canada Stephanie Pepper, Ed.D, NBCT Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Helping Children Learn to Manage Conflict: Exploring Strategies for Positive Communication
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Does this look familiar?
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Presentation Outline 1. 2. 3. 4.
Appropriate Responses Current Approaches Script Suggestions Websites
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Teachers/Caregivers Seek to: • Maintain composure • Provide a safe and nurturing environment • Establish predictable routines • Promote positive interactions
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Adults Support Children Children need support in: • expressing themselves in positive ways • finding appropriate words and phrases • setting healthy boundaries • teaching others how to treat them
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Explaining Conflict to Children 1. State the facts. 2. Know that we are all human. 3. Tell the child that communicating isn’t easy during conflict, but it is important. 4. Help the child feel safe.
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Suggested Strategies Three Conflict Resolution Methods: • Tucker Turtle • ABCD • Bibliotherapy
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Steps to Control Feelings
1. 2. 3. 4.
Recognize feelings. Stop. Tuck inside your “shell” Come out when calm and think of a solution.
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Possible Solutions Think of solutions while in the “shell.” 1. Ask nicely. 2. Trade an item. 3. Get a teacher. 4. Ignore. 5. Take turns. Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Easy as ABCD A - Ask: What’s the problem? B - Brainstorm solutions. C - Choose the best. D - Do it!
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Bibliotherapy • Use books to help children understand and process complex issues. • Reading to children can be therapeutic. • Behavior problems can be improved with reading books involving problem solving. Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Popular Literature
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Popular Literature
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Book Covers HowFullYourBucketKids/dp/1595620273/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1396145645&sr= 82&keywords=fill+your+bucket+kids+books Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Script Suggestions • “I’m using the red crayon now, but you may have it next. I will finish up quickly.” • “I don’t like it when you take my things. Say, ‘May I have a turn?’” • “You take it now and I’ll get it back.”
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Resources
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Websites • http://pbskidsgo.org/arthur • http://pbskids.org/berenstainbears • www.bucketfillers101.com/will-you-fill-my-bucket.php • http://challengingbehavior.fmhi.usf.edu/do/resources/teachi ng_tools/ttyc_toc.htm#turtle • http://challengingbehavior.fmhi.usf.edu/index.htm -accessed 03/30/14 Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
References • Bailey, B., (2001). Conscious Discipline. Oviedo, FL: Loving Guidance. • Charles, C. M. (2011). Positive Discipline. Boston: Pearson. • http://www.pbs.org/teachers/ retrieved September 17, 2012. • http://www.pbs.org/parents/talkingwithkids/explaining-conflict-toyour-child.html retrieved March 29, 2014. • Kostelnik, M. et. al. (2011) Developmentally Appropriate Curriculum: Best Practices in Early Childhood Education. Boston: Pearson. • Meichenbaum, D. & Goodman, J. (1971). Training impulsive children to talk to themselves. A means of developing self-control. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 77, 115 – 126. Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Helping Children Learn to Manage Conflict: Exploring Strategies for Positive Communication
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Does this look familiar?
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Presentation Outline 1. 2. 3. 4.
Appropriate Responses Current Approaches Script Suggestions Websites
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Teachers/Caregivers Seek to: • Maintain composure • Provide a safe and nurturing environment • Establish predictable routines • Promote positive interactions
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Adults Support Children Children need support in: • expressing themselves in positive ways • finding appropriate words and phrases • setting healthy boundaries • teaching others how to treat them
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Explaining Conflict to Children 1. State the facts. 2. Know that we are all human. 3. Tell the child that communicating isn’t easy during conflict, but it is important. 4. Help the child feel safe.
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Suggested Strategies Three Conflict Resolution Methods: • Tucker Turtle • ABCD • Bibliotherapy
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Steps to Control Feelings
1. 2. 3. 4.
Recognize feelings. Stop. Tuck inside your “shell” Come out when calm and think of a solution.
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Possible Solutions Think of solutions while in the “shell.” 1. Ask nicely. 2. Trade an item. 3. Get a teacher. 4. Ignore. 5. Take turns. Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Easy as ABCD A - Ask: What’s the problem? B - Brainstorm solutions. C - Choose the best. D - Do it!
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Bibliotherapy • Use books to help children understand and process complex issues. • Reading to children can be therapeutic. • Behavior problems can be improved with reading books involving problem solving. Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Popular Literature
Book Covers http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=sr_pg_7?sf=col&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aa rthur&page=7&keywords=arthur&ie=UTF8&qid=1396145420 Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Popular Literature
Book Covers http://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aberenstain%20be ars%20books
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Popular Literature
/
Book Covers HowFullYourBucketKids/dp/1595620273/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1396145645&sr= 82&keywords=fill+your+bucket+kids+books Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Script Suggestions • “I’m using the red crayon now, but you may have it next. I will finish up quickly.” • “I don’t like it when you take my things. Say, ‘May I have a turn?’” • “You take it now and I’ll get it back.”
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Resources
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
Websites • http://pbskidsgo.org/arthur • http://pbskids.org/berenstainbears • www.bucketfillers101.com/will-you-fill-my-bucket.php • http://challengingbehavior.fmhi.usf.edu/do/resources/teachi ng_tools/ttyc_toc.htm#turtle • http://challengingbehavior.fmhi.usf.edu/index.htm -accessed 03/30/14 Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
References • Bailey, B., (2001). Conscious Discipline. Oviedo, FL: Loving Guidance. • Charles, C. M. (2011). Positive Discipline. Boston: Pearson. • http://www.pbs.org/teachers/ retrieved September 17, 2012. • http://www.pbs.org/parents/talkingwithkids/explaining-conflict-toyour-child.html retrieved March 29, 2014. • Kostelnik, M. et. al. (2011) Developmentally Appropriate Curriculum: Best Practices in Early Childhood Education. Boston: Pearson. • Meichenbaum, D. & Goodman, J. (1971). Training impulsive children to talk to themselves. A means of developing self-control. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 77, 115 – 126. Dr. Stephanie Pepper Assistant Professor, C&I [email protected]
