Prince charming and beautiful princess Prince William
SERIES: Once Upon a Marriage MESSAGE: Prince Charming SPEAKER: Paul Basden DATE: 2.12.12 WATCH ONLINE: prestontrail.org
Prince charming and beautiful princess
Prince William and Catherine
Responses to this fairy tale: 1. Some try hard to reach it, but get defeated because they encounter real problems 2. Some decide the goal is impossible, so quit trying to reach it 3. Some realize the image is a fairytale, but know that it points to something worth pursuing (“Things don’t have to be perfect to be really good.” John Claypool) This series is not about how to change your marriage … or your spouse …. it’s about how to change YOU! Our focus is going to be on inputs, not on outcomes: • “You can’t work on your marriage – you can just work on yourself; and if you do that faithfully, your marriage will take care of itself.” (Billy Grammer) • “Anything that makes you a better person will make you a better spouse.” (Lonnie Hayter) Man: Made in God’s Image
Pittman Eldredge Bible Protect the home Fight a battle Power Provide for family Live an adventure Money Produce children Rescue a beauty Sex 27 God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27) 15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. (Genesis 2:15) 18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman, ‘ for she was taken out of man.” 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:18-25) Man: Fractured by Sin Pain + fear + cowardice + irresponsibility + cover-up = Poser “Midnight in Paris”
Results: • Power – uses people for self-interest – “Controller” • Money – amasses wealth to prove worth – “Tycoon” • Sex – uses women to gratify sexual urges and to cover up insecurity – “Womanizer” Pittman Eldredge Bible Results of Sin Protect the home Fight a battle Power Controller Provide for family Live an adventure Money Tycoon Produce children Rescue a beauty Sex Womanizer Man: Redeemed by Jesus Christ 9 Don’t you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals, 10 thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers, and swindlers -- none of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God. 11 There was a time when some of you were just like that, but now your sins have been washed away, and you have been set apart for God. You have been made right with God because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you. (1 Corinthians 6:9-12) Results: • Power – serves people in accordance with God’s interests – “servant-leader” • Money – puts money in Kingdom investments – “eternal investor” • Sex – a one-woman man who is devoted to his wife – “cherishes wife” Pittman Protect the home Provide for family Produce children
Eldredge Fight a battle Live an adventure Rescue a beauty
Bible Power Money Sex
Results of Sin Controller Tycoon Womanizer
Redeemed by Christ Servant-leader Eternal investments Cherish wife
Each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33) Man: His Role in Marriage “According to Ephesians 5, my job isn’t to change Becky – it’s to love her!”
Prince charming and beautiful princess
Prince William and Catherine
Responses to this fairy tale: 1. Some try hard to reach it, but get defeated because they encounter real problems 2. Some decide the goal is impossible, so quit trying to reach it 3. Some realize the image is a fairytale, but know that it points to something worth pursuing (“Things don’t have to be perfect to be really good.” John Claypool) This series is not about how to change your marriage … or your spouse …. it’s about how to change YOU! Our focus is going to be on inputs, not on outcomes: • “You can’t work on your marriage – you can just work on yourself; and if you do that faithfully, your marriage will take care of itself.” (Billy Grammer) • “Anything that makes you a better person will make you a better spouse.” (Lonnie Hayter) Man: Made in God’s Image
Pittman Eldredge Bible Protect the home Fight a battle Power Provide for family Live an adventure Money Produce children Rescue a beauty Sex 27 God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27) 15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. (Genesis 2:15) 18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman, ‘ for she was taken out of man.” 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:18-25) Man: Fractured by Sin Pain + fear + cowardice + irresponsibility + cover-up = Poser “Midnight in Paris”
Results: • Power – uses people for self-interest – “Controller” • Money – amasses wealth to prove worth – “Tycoon” • Sex – uses women to gratify sexual urges and to cover up insecurity – “Womanizer” Pittman Eldredge Bible Results of Sin Protect the home Fight a battle Power Controller Provide for family Live an adventure Money Tycoon Produce children Rescue a beauty Sex Womanizer Man: Redeemed by Jesus Christ 9 Don’t you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals, 10 thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers, and swindlers -- none of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God. 11 There was a time when some of you were just like that, but now your sins have been washed away, and you have been set apart for God. You have been made right with God because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you. (1 Corinthians 6:9-12) Results: • Power – serves people in accordance with God’s interests – “servant-leader” • Money – puts money in Kingdom investments – “eternal investor” • Sex – a one-woman man who is devoted to his wife – “cherishes wife” Pittman Protect the home Provide for family Produce children
Eldredge Fight a battle Live an adventure Rescue a beauty
Bible Power Money Sex
Results of Sin Controller Tycoon Womanizer
Redeemed by Christ Servant-leader Eternal investments Cherish wife
Each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33) Man: His Role in Marriage “According to Ephesians 5, my job isn’t to change Becky – it’s to love her!”
