3 Step Module1 Worksheet
Step One Worksheet MODULE 1: The title of this Module of the course is _______________________________________________ . Subtitle : If you can’t ________________________ to this system, how can you commit to a ______________________________?
ABOUT THE COURSE EXPLAIN THE COURSE: In Step 1, you’re going to learn about and uncover your “________________________” You’re going to take a look at what’s happening at the ________________________ level. And I’m going to help you discover and uncover what’s really going on at a ________________________ level - at the foundation of your being - that’s causing you to feel as you do right now. In Step 2 I’ll guide you to create a sound________________________ picture of how you will be and what you’ll be experiencing when your life is changed for the________________________ . In Step 3, you’ll learn the few, ________________________ , easy-to-implement tools that when you use them, will take you in the straightest line from where you are, ________________________________________________ to where you want to be, your __________________________________________________________________.
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Step One Worksheet Ground Rule #1. Your success at getting the results that are possible for you in this course require that you ________________________ your ________________________ . Your success at getting the results that are possible for you in this course require that you ________________________ your ________________________ . Write it twice. It’s really important. Ground Rule #2. __________________________________________________________________________ . Here’s the guarantee I make to you as a Student in this Course: As long as you participate ________________________ in the course (meaning that you attend and/or listen to the audio recordings of all of the classes ________________________ do the exercises you’ll learn) you’ll experience ________________________ positive results in your life in 21 days or less, or your money back. That guarantee, as you just heard, is based on your learning and implementing the 3-Step System. Ground Rule #3. No ________________________ about your partner or your relationship. During this Course, you may have the opportunity to ________________________ about things in your relationship about what’s working or not - but you’ll be reporting as if you are an ________________________ ________________________ looking at your relationship from outside of it. No ________________________ ; “Just the facts, Ma’am.”
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Step One Worksheet STEP ONE: YOUR “WHAT IS” THE “PROBLEM” OR “PAIN POINTS” (YOUR “WHAT IS”): Write on your Worksheet 1 of 5, Left Column, what annoys you as if you’re a reporter. What are one or more things your partner does that “triggers” you. Just write what they are, without any emotion.
UNCOVERING AND ACCEPTING THIS REALIZATION: If you believe that these ‘triggers” are the direct cause of your unhappiness, it is causing you great ________________________ . And THERE IS ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ . Why? Because he’s ________________________ changing. Because you will ________________________ change him. Ask yourself: Who keeps doing what bothers you? ________________________ . Who’s the one who’s unhappy? ________________________ .
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Step One Worksheet THERE IS HOPE: Not being able to change or control your partner is really a ________________________ thing. Because when you really get this, it changes ________________________ . With this realization, you can stop feeling ________________________ for trying to ________________________ someone else. And if you stop trying to change your partner, you can stop feeling ________________________ that you’re not getting through to him and he’s not doing what you want him to do. That’s the first step. Then all that’s left is to ALLOW HIM TO BE ________________________ and stop getting ________________________ or triggered by what he does. With this realization that you can’t change or control your partner, you can shift your attention to who you CAN ________________________ - ________________________ . At least there’s a chance that this could be true. There’s a possibility that you could change, in a way that would make you ________________________ , more of the time. “If I can’t change how ________________________ acts, I can change how ________________________ react, respond and act.” “ ________________________ the one who lets things bother me. If I can let them bother me, I can let them ________________________ bother me.” You can put your faith in me even before you can believe in ________________________ . I’m not responsible for your success. Your success is all ________________________ . But you are ________________________ committing with me. It takes ________________________ to a system, goal, vision, relationship to ________________________ success. You have to ________________________ commitment if you want it ________________________________________________ when you call on it. TRMW 3-Step “Transform Your Relationship Experience” Course: Step 1 Worksheet, Page 4 of 8
Step One Worksheet The 3-Step “Transform your Relationship Experience”TM System is based on the premise that it IS possible to learn a ________________________ way to take charge of ______________________________________________________ that will be highly ________________________ in making a happy difference in your relationship, ________________________ and easily.
EXTRA HOMEWORK EXERCISE: At the ________________________ level, there are things your partner does that bother or ________________________ you. Here’s a simple exercise that can help you learn that you’re in control of ________________________ , of how ________________________ react, and how ________________________ feel. Right now, think of something that he does that annoys you. Now shift your attention to something that makes you feel good. Can you feel your mood shift? As you go through the next 24 hours, whenever you notice yourself getting angry or triggered in some other way, or feeling bothered by your partner, as soon as you notice that that’s happening, shift your attention to something anything else - that makes you feel good. It may be something that your partner does that give you those good feelings, or it may be just anything else that makes you feel happy, or loved. That’s all there is to it. Just shift your focus from what ________________________ to what feels good as soon as you recognize that you’re ________________________ a feeling that you’d rather not feel. Two things might be happening when you do this. You may simply be avoiding or diverting your feelings. Or you may actually be ________________________ - transforming - them from one state to another. TRMW 3-Step “Transform Your Relationship Experience” Course: Step 1 Worksheet, Page 5 of 8
Step One Worksheet This exercise is about giving you an experience that you can ________________________ ________________________ your ________________________ ________________________ . ________________________ in control. You’re in charge of the emotions you create for yourself.
GETTING TO THE CAUSE. GETTING TO THE HEART OF THE MATTER: “The Deeper Meaning” These things that trigger us and seem to cause us to feel annoyed are the “________________________” stuff. They’re very ________________________ , and at the same time they’re just an indication of something ________________________ . What’s “deeper” is the “________________________” that you give to the thing that ________________________ you. This is a “______________________ __________________________” Course. One of the principles of ________________________ is that if you deal ________________________ at the ________________________ level, you only change what happens on the surface. But when you deal with change at ________________________ levels, and especially at the ________________________ level, you can affect what happens over a wider swath. If you make changes ________________________ the surface, you can stop being triggered by a _________________________ _______________________ of things all at once, instead of having to deal with them one-by-one. But if you’re brave enough to look at the ________________________ meaning that you give to those events, you can see that the underlying meaning is the same for ________________________ - if not ________________________ of each of the surface things that trigger you.
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Step One Worksheet Then when you ________________________ those ________________________ interpretations of the surface stuff, you can change those ________________________ , which will ________________________ how you react, respond or act in relationship to ________________________ events.
HOMEWORK EXERCISE: Earlier you shared/wrote things about your partner that annoy you, as if you’re a reporter. You revealed one or more things your partner does that “triggers” you. You just said what they are, without any emotion. “He drops his dirty clothes on the floor. He leaves the toilet seat up.” Just the facts. Now go back to what you said - those things you named that bother you. That will be on the left column of Homework Sheet 1A. Take any one of them, for example: “He puts the dishes away in the wrong place.” And ask yourself: “What am I really feeling, at a deeper place, when I say that?” You might discover that when you think about him not putting the dishes away the way you want him to, that you might be thinking or feeling at a deeper level, for example: “He doesn’t listen to me.” Which might lead to: “He doesn’t care about me, or about what’s important to me.” Or... “He doesn’t respect me or my wishes.”
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Step One Worksheet This is Merle Singer, The relationship miracle worker, Founder of RelationshipMiracleWorker.com and creator of this 3-Step “Transform your Relationship Experience” System. This is the end of Module One, in which you’ve learned Step 1: Your “What Is.” I’m glad to have you as a student in this course, and look forward to learning of your great success. You can reach me at [email protected]. Ask any question; I answer my emails. Till Audio 2.
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ABOUT THE COURSE EXPLAIN THE COURSE: In Step 1, you’re going to learn about and uncover your “________________________” You’re going to take a look at what’s happening at the ________________________ level. And I’m going to help you discover and uncover what’s really going on at a ________________________ level - at the foundation of your being - that’s causing you to feel as you do right now. In Step 2 I’ll guide you to create a sound________________________ picture of how you will be and what you’ll be experiencing when your life is changed for the________________________ . In Step 3, you’ll learn the few, ________________________ , easy-to-implement tools that when you use them, will take you in the straightest line from where you are, ________________________________________________ to where you want to be, your __________________________________________________________________.
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Step One Worksheet Ground Rule #1. Your success at getting the results that are possible for you in this course require that you ________________________ your ________________________ . Your success at getting the results that are possible for you in this course require that you ________________________ your ________________________ . Write it twice. It’s really important. Ground Rule #2. __________________________________________________________________________ . Here’s the guarantee I make to you as a Student in this Course: As long as you participate ________________________ in the course (meaning that you attend and/or listen to the audio recordings of all of the classes ________________________ do the exercises you’ll learn) you’ll experience ________________________ positive results in your life in 21 days or less, or your money back. That guarantee, as you just heard, is based on your learning and implementing the 3-Step System. Ground Rule #3. No ________________________ about your partner or your relationship. During this Course, you may have the opportunity to ________________________ about things in your relationship about what’s working or not - but you’ll be reporting as if you are an ________________________ ________________________ looking at your relationship from outside of it. No ________________________ ; “Just the facts, Ma’am.”
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Step One Worksheet STEP ONE: YOUR “WHAT IS” THE “PROBLEM” OR “PAIN POINTS” (YOUR “WHAT IS”): Write on your Worksheet 1 of 5, Left Column, what annoys you as if you’re a reporter. What are one or more things your partner does that “triggers” you. Just write what they are, without any emotion.
UNCOVERING AND ACCEPTING THIS REALIZATION: If you believe that these ‘triggers” are the direct cause of your unhappiness, it is causing you great ________________________ . And THERE IS ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ . Why? Because he’s ________________________ changing. Because you will ________________________ change him. Ask yourself: Who keeps doing what bothers you? ________________________ . Who’s the one who’s unhappy? ________________________ .
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Step One Worksheet THERE IS HOPE: Not being able to change or control your partner is really a ________________________ thing. Because when you really get this, it changes ________________________ . With this realization, you can stop feeling ________________________ for trying to ________________________ someone else. And if you stop trying to change your partner, you can stop feeling ________________________ that you’re not getting through to him and he’s not doing what you want him to do. That’s the first step. Then all that’s left is to ALLOW HIM TO BE ________________________ and stop getting ________________________ or triggered by what he does. With this realization that you can’t change or control your partner, you can shift your attention to who you CAN ________________________ - ________________________ . At least there’s a chance that this could be true. There’s a possibility that you could change, in a way that would make you ________________________ , more of the time. “If I can’t change how ________________________ acts, I can change how ________________________ react, respond and act.” “ ________________________ the one who lets things bother me. If I can let them bother me, I can let them ________________________ bother me.” You can put your faith in me even before you can believe in ________________________ . I’m not responsible for your success. Your success is all ________________________ . But you are ________________________ committing with me. It takes ________________________ to a system, goal, vision, relationship to ________________________ success. You have to ________________________ commitment if you want it ________________________________________________ when you call on it. TRMW 3-Step “Transform Your Relationship Experience” Course: Step 1 Worksheet, Page 4 of 8
Step One Worksheet The 3-Step “Transform your Relationship Experience”TM System is based on the premise that it IS possible to learn a ________________________ way to take charge of ______________________________________________________ that will be highly ________________________ in making a happy difference in your relationship, ________________________ and easily.
EXTRA HOMEWORK EXERCISE: At the ________________________ level, there are things your partner does that bother or ________________________ you. Here’s a simple exercise that can help you learn that you’re in control of ________________________ , of how ________________________ react, and how ________________________ feel. Right now, think of something that he does that annoys you. Now shift your attention to something that makes you feel good. Can you feel your mood shift? As you go through the next 24 hours, whenever you notice yourself getting angry or triggered in some other way, or feeling bothered by your partner, as soon as you notice that that’s happening, shift your attention to something anything else - that makes you feel good. It may be something that your partner does that give you those good feelings, or it may be just anything else that makes you feel happy, or loved. That’s all there is to it. Just shift your focus from what ________________________ to what feels good as soon as you recognize that you’re ________________________ a feeling that you’d rather not feel. Two things might be happening when you do this. You may simply be avoiding or diverting your feelings. Or you may actually be ________________________ - transforming - them from one state to another. TRMW 3-Step “Transform Your Relationship Experience” Course: Step 1 Worksheet, Page 5 of 8
Step One Worksheet This exercise is about giving you an experience that you can ________________________ ________________________ your ________________________ ________________________ . ________________________ in control. You’re in charge of the emotions you create for yourself.
GETTING TO THE CAUSE. GETTING TO THE HEART OF THE MATTER: “The Deeper Meaning” These things that trigger us and seem to cause us to feel annoyed are the “________________________” stuff. They’re very ________________________ , and at the same time they’re just an indication of something ________________________ . What’s “deeper” is the “________________________” that you give to the thing that ________________________ you. This is a “______________________ __________________________” Course. One of the principles of ________________________ is that if you deal ________________________ at the ________________________ level, you only change what happens on the surface. But when you deal with change at ________________________ levels, and especially at the ________________________ level, you can affect what happens over a wider swath. If you make changes ________________________ the surface, you can stop being triggered by a _________________________ _______________________ of things all at once, instead of having to deal with them one-by-one. But if you’re brave enough to look at the ________________________ meaning that you give to those events, you can see that the underlying meaning is the same for ________________________ - if not ________________________ of each of the surface things that trigger you.
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Step One Worksheet Then when you ________________________ those ________________________ interpretations of the surface stuff, you can change those ________________________ , which will ________________________ how you react, respond or act in relationship to ________________________ events.
HOMEWORK EXERCISE: Earlier you shared/wrote things about your partner that annoy you, as if you’re a reporter. You revealed one or more things your partner does that “triggers” you. You just said what they are, without any emotion. “He drops his dirty clothes on the floor. He leaves the toilet seat up.” Just the facts. Now go back to what you said - those things you named that bother you. That will be on the left column of Homework Sheet 1A. Take any one of them, for example: “He puts the dishes away in the wrong place.” And ask yourself: “What am I really feeling, at a deeper place, when I say that?” You might discover that when you think about him not putting the dishes away the way you want him to, that you might be thinking or feeling at a deeper level, for example: “He doesn’t listen to me.” Which might lead to: “He doesn’t care about me, or about what’s important to me.” Or... “He doesn’t respect me or my wishes.”
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Step One Worksheet This is Merle Singer, The relationship miracle worker, Founder of RelationshipMiracleWorker.com and creator of this 3-Step “Transform your Relationship Experience” System. This is the end of Module One, in which you’ve learned Step 1: Your “What Is.” I’m glad to have you as a student in this course, and look forward to learning of your great success. You can reach me at [email protected]. Ask any question; I answer my emails. Till Audio 2.
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