3 Step Module2 Worksheet
Step Two Worksheet MODULE 2: The title of this Module of the course is Your "What Could Be."
INTRODUCTION Four Foundational Keys for your Success Key #1. Be committed to ___________________. Put what you learn into __________________. Key #2. Suspend your ___________________________________________________________. Key #3. Commit to the ___________________________________________________________. Key #4. Stop complaining about your _____________________ and/or your ___________________________. Three Basic Points of Action Associated with Step 1: Your “What Is”. 1st Action Step: Be a _______________________________________. Take time to look at your life as if you are a reporter, an ________________________________.
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There are two clear benefits to this: One: You get to become _________________________ about what’s happening. You start noticing things you do unconsciously, feelings that arise that you hadn’t noticed before because they happen by unconscious habit. Two: You get practice at not being __________________________. This goes a long way toward reminding you that you're in charge of your emotional reactions or responses to anything that happens. This is especially true for things that happen outside of you - for example people or circumstances that you blame as the alleged cause for your unhappiness.
2nd Action Step: What You Are In Charge Of Shift Your ______________ from what ______________ to What Feels ________________________. 3rd Action Step: Do Your Homework Sheets Doing your Homework Sheets: A. Helps you become more consciously ______________ B. Helps you become ______________ that there can be a ______________ level of meaning that you place on your surface triggers and what that deeper meaning is. C. Provides an accurate _________________________ so that you can consistently track your progress.
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WHY 21 DAYS? This Course is about creating a new ______________, a new way of changing and controlling what you can control. So when you stick with this Course for 21 days, you're laying the ______________ for new habits that you’re more likely to do, on your own when the Course ends. STEP 2 of the 3-STEP "TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE" SYSTEM In this Module, you're going to learn a simple formula for creating an ___________________________ of your future. The 3-STEP "TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE" SYSTEM is based on the premise that no relationship can succeed, or be turned around, without at least one person in it holding their own ____________________________ ______________ aspiring, and ______________
to which they are ______________,
the current state of the relationship against, so that they and the
relationship can be constantly improving and appreciating the improvement. Step 2 is comprised of three sequential elements: 2A. Identifying The "Relationship Miracle Worker" Obstacle To Happiness: 2B. Writing Your Relationship Miracle Worker Vision Statement 2C: "Grounding" Your Vision
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Go to the Worksheet where it reads… 2A. Identifying The "Relationship Miracle Worker" Obstacles To ____________________________: There are several obstacles to happiness that plague many, if not most, people in relationships - especially ____________________, unfortunately. The first obstacle is: I'm blaming my spouse for my own unhappiness. It comes, in some part, from having ____________________ expectations of my partner. The second obstacle is: I'm putting my attention on the "______________________________________” The third obstacle is: I most likely don't have a clear powerful vision of what I truly ______________ and what I truly imagine is __________________ for me in this relationship. The fourth Obstacle is: I believe that it takes ________ members of the couple to improve the relationship. I'm waiting for my partner to ________________ in couple's counselling to improve our marriage and he ______________ participate.
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CORE PRINCIPLES overcome Obstacles: There are core principles that will overcome any obstacles.
Core principle One: One: Some - or much - of your own unhappiness comes from your unrealistic expectations of others, particularly your partner or spouse. This answers Obstacle One: It's my________________________ my partner's behaviours that are the _____________
_______________________ and not
______________ of my unhappiness.
Core principle Two: Two: It's a Universal Law that "What you put your attention on, ______________." So by putting my attention on what I don’t like, I'm getting _________________ of what I don't like. And with my attention on those things, I'm _________________ the _________________ stuff that's here, too. This answers Obstacle Two: I'm putting my attention on the “______________ ". My blaming my spouse for my own unhappiness comes, in some part, from having ______________ expectations of my partner. Your having put your attention on what you DON’T like and what doesn’t bring you happiness HAS worked to bring you MORE of what you don’t like and what doesn’t bring you happiness. So if you want more happiness in your life, make sure to put your attention on the positive qualities you want to expand and experience more of.
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The third core principal is: Three: is possible to have a clear powerful vision that will get you going toward the relationship experience that you __________. This answers Obstacle Three: I most likely don't have a clear powerful vision of what I truly ___________ and what I truly imagine is ______________ for me in this relationship.
The fourth core principal is: Four: It only takes ________ person in the relationship to change the relationship experience. He doesn't have to participate; he doesn't even have to ____________. This answers Obstacle four: I'm waiting for my partner to __________ in couple's counselling to improve our marriage and he ______________ participate. No need to wait. The changes that you make within yourself create a different environment for you and the other people close to you – like your partner.
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Writing Your Relationship Miracle Worker Vision Statement My story Qualities vrs Things Your “Relationship Experience” Vision Statement The Vision Statement that you are going to create reflects desirable changes in your relationship that you can achieve in a ________________. It’s _______________ sentence long. The template for this Vision Statement is the _____________________ for ____________________. The format for the Vision Statement is “___________________ in ____________________________” Your Vision Statement will be written in ______________ language. It is not ______________ in that once achieved you don’t need to stop and you don’t need to create another different Vision Statement. Your Vision Statement allows you to ______________ today to yesterday, and by comparison you will be able to continually measure your progress. Remember that this is your Vision Statement about _____________________________. Your Vision Statement reflects the qualities that you want for ________________ - desirable qualities that you are willing to pursue and __________________ are achievable for yourself.
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Now it’s time for you to write your own simple powerful, believable and achievable Transform Your Relationship Experience Vision Statement. Go to your Homework Sheet for the rest of the lesson. Step 2, Your ‘What Could Be.” Homework Sheets 2A. Your Personal Vision Statement 2B. Confirming and Committing to Your Personal Vision Statement 2C: Vision Statement Assessment INTRO TO THE GUIDED IMAGERY PLAY THE GUIDED IMAGERY REVIEW OF STEP 1 AND STEP 2 OF THE 3-STEP SYSTEM: Here’s a brief review of the major points associated with Step 1: Your “What Is.” 1. You blame your partner for your unhappiness and try to change him 2. When you realize and embrace that you can't change or control your partner that opens the door to great freedom and great hope. 3. There's hope. 4. You can work on change at two levels:
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The "surface" level, which is your reaction to your partner based on what happens in the moment. Just shift your attention to anything that makes you feel good. The "deeper" level. By asking yourself what deeper meaning you place on each of these singular events, you open the door to the possibility of change at a deeper level that can affect lots of little things on the surface, all at once.
THE EXERCISES 1. Do the Homework. 2. Notice yourself getting triggered or feeling angry, upset or bothered, 3. Practice shifting the focus of your attention to what makes you feel happy. 4. Keep track on your Baseline Assessment Sheet 5. Start tracking how many times you shifted from you targeted negative quality and moved to your targeted positive quality. Just tiny, incremental steps.
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INTRODUCTION Four Foundational Keys for your Success Key #1. Be committed to ___________________. Put what you learn into __________________. Key #2. Suspend your ___________________________________________________________. Key #3. Commit to the ___________________________________________________________. Key #4. Stop complaining about your _____________________ and/or your ___________________________. Three Basic Points of Action Associated with Step 1: Your “What Is”. 1st Action Step: Be a _______________________________________. Take time to look at your life as if you are a reporter, an ________________________________.
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There are two clear benefits to this: One: You get to become _________________________ about what’s happening. You start noticing things you do unconsciously, feelings that arise that you hadn’t noticed before because they happen by unconscious habit. Two: You get practice at not being __________________________. This goes a long way toward reminding you that you're in charge of your emotional reactions or responses to anything that happens. This is especially true for things that happen outside of you - for example people or circumstances that you blame as the alleged cause for your unhappiness.
2nd Action Step: What You Are In Charge Of Shift Your ______________ from what ______________ to What Feels ________________________. 3rd Action Step: Do Your Homework Sheets Doing your Homework Sheets: A. Helps you become more consciously ______________ B. Helps you become ______________ that there can be a ______________ level of meaning that you place on your surface triggers and what that deeper meaning is. C. Provides an accurate _________________________ so that you can consistently track your progress.
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WHY 21 DAYS? This Course is about creating a new ______________, a new way of changing and controlling what you can control. So when you stick with this Course for 21 days, you're laying the ______________ for new habits that you’re more likely to do, on your own when the Course ends. STEP 2 of the 3-STEP "TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE" SYSTEM In this Module, you're going to learn a simple formula for creating an ___________________________ of your future. The 3-STEP "TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE" SYSTEM is based on the premise that no relationship can succeed, or be turned around, without at least one person in it holding their own ____________________________ ______________ aspiring, and ______________
to which they are ______________,
the current state of the relationship against, so that they and the
relationship can be constantly improving and appreciating the improvement. Step 2 is comprised of three sequential elements: 2A. Identifying The "Relationship Miracle Worker" Obstacle To Happiness: 2B. Writing Your Relationship Miracle Worker Vision Statement 2C: "Grounding" Your Vision
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Go to the Worksheet where it reads… 2A. Identifying The "Relationship Miracle Worker" Obstacles To ____________________________: There are several obstacles to happiness that plague many, if not most, people in relationships - especially ____________________, unfortunately. The first obstacle is: I'm blaming my spouse for my own unhappiness. It comes, in some part, from having ____________________ expectations of my partner. The second obstacle is: I'm putting my attention on the "______________________________________” The third obstacle is: I most likely don't have a clear powerful vision of what I truly ______________ and what I truly imagine is __________________ for me in this relationship. The fourth Obstacle is: I believe that it takes ________ members of the couple to improve the relationship. I'm waiting for my partner to ________________ in couple's counselling to improve our marriage and he ______________ participate.
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CORE PRINCIPLES overcome Obstacles: There are core principles that will overcome any obstacles.
Core principle One: One: Some - or much - of your own unhappiness comes from your unrealistic expectations of others, particularly your partner or spouse. This answers Obstacle One: It's my________________________ my partner's behaviours that are the _____________
_______________________ and not
______________ of my unhappiness.
Core principle Two: Two: It's a Universal Law that "What you put your attention on, ______________." So by putting my attention on what I don’t like, I'm getting _________________ of what I don't like. And with my attention on those things, I'm _________________ the _________________ stuff that's here, too. This answers Obstacle Two: I'm putting my attention on the “______________ ". My blaming my spouse for my own unhappiness comes, in some part, from having ______________ expectations of my partner. Your having put your attention on what you DON’T like and what doesn’t bring you happiness HAS worked to bring you MORE of what you don’t like and what doesn’t bring you happiness. So if you want more happiness in your life, make sure to put your attention on the positive qualities you want to expand and experience more of.
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The third core principal is: Three: is possible to have a clear powerful vision that will get you going toward the relationship experience that you __________. This answers Obstacle Three: I most likely don't have a clear powerful vision of what I truly ___________ and what I truly imagine is ______________ for me in this relationship.
The fourth core principal is: Four: It only takes ________ person in the relationship to change the relationship experience. He doesn't have to participate; he doesn't even have to ____________. This answers Obstacle four: I'm waiting for my partner to __________ in couple's counselling to improve our marriage and he ______________ participate. No need to wait. The changes that you make within yourself create a different environment for you and the other people close to you – like your partner.
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Writing Your Relationship Miracle Worker Vision Statement My story Qualities vrs Things Your “Relationship Experience” Vision Statement The Vision Statement that you are going to create reflects desirable changes in your relationship that you can achieve in a ________________. It’s _______________ sentence long. The template for this Vision Statement is the _____________________ for ____________________. The format for the Vision Statement is “___________________ in ____________________________” Your Vision Statement will be written in ______________ language. It is not ______________ in that once achieved you don’t need to stop and you don’t need to create another different Vision Statement. Your Vision Statement allows you to ______________ today to yesterday, and by comparison you will be able to continually measure your progress. Remember that this is your Vision Statement about _____________________________. Your Vision Statement reflects the qualities that you want for ________________ - desirable qualities that you are willing to pursue and __________________ are achievable for yourself.
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Now it’s time for you to write your own simple powerful, believable and achievable Transform Your Relationship Experience Vision Statement. Go to your Homework Sheet for the rest of the lesson. Step 2, Your ‘What Could Be.” Homework Sheets 2A. Your Personal Vision Statement 2B. Confirming and Committing to Your Personal Vision Statement 2C: Vision Statement Assessment INTRO TO THE GUIDED IMAGERY PLAY THE GUIDED IMAGERY REVIEW OF STEP 1 AND STEP 2 OF THE 3-STEP SYSTEM: Here’s a brief review of the major points associated with Step 1: Your “What Is.” 1. You blame your partner for your unhappiness and try to change him 2. When you realize and embrace that you can't change or control your partner that opens the door to great freedom and great hope. 3. There's hope. 4. You can work on change at two levels:
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The "surface" level, which is your reaction to your partner based on what happens in the moment. Just shift your attention to anything that makes you feel good. The "deeper" level. By asking yourself what deeper meaning you place on each of these singular events, you open the door to the possibility of change at a deeper level that can affect lots of little things on the surface, all at once.
THE EXERCISES 1. Do the Homework. 2. Notice yourself getting triggered or feeling angry, upset or bothered, 3. Practice shifting the focus of your attention to what makes you feel happy. 4. Keep track on your Baseline Assessment Sheet 5. Start tracking how many times you shifted from you targeted negative quality and moved to your targeted positive quality. Just tiny, incremental steps.
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